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anonymous
writes: I have just come out of an eight month relationship and I want to know how to get my ex back. It got to a point in the relationship where he wouldnt answer my calls/texts and he ended it reluctantly when I challenged him about this, saying that he was hoping I would end it. I have tried a couple of times to talk to my ex since ( it has been two months) but he says he wants to leave it a while before we make contact again. We had a serious relationship and were practically living together at one time and I had met his six year old son and we had all been on holiday together. At the time we broke up, he had just started a new job with long hours which he was finding very stressful. Everything was OK prior to that. He has been hurt by women in the past and I was his first serious girlfriend since his divorce and just when I thought things were going well this happens. It took us a long time of dating before we actually got together because he was so afraid of being hurt again. People are saying that he was just using me and has probably got someone else. He actually told me in anger that he has someone else, but this was said to make me jealous and there is no evidence of this and his friends/family know nothing of another girlfriend. The month deadline we set is now nearly up and I don't know whether to contact him or just leave it. What do other people think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thankyou very much for taking the time to reply to my problem. Things are starting to become a bit clearer now, and I am starting to feel more positive whatever the outcome will be. x
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (9 November 2007):
 I believe you do have the answer to your question, is just difficult to accept it. If you've contacted him and friends and family and you have had no response back, then you know. His lack of response is your response!
We can not force people to deal with their issues or to get over difficult situations, if he is not ready to love, there is nothing you can do about it and if you stick to waiting then you are just setting yourself up to get hurt MORE.
Just let it be... maybe he'll come back, maybe he won't... only time will tell. Meanwhile work on you, on being happy and on enjoying life and helping others. This journey is not as long as it seems!
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): I think this man sounds very shut down, he can't love anyone at the moment, and a month long break is ridiculous. Cut your losses girl and move on and find a man that wants to be with you full time....he's out there.
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