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writes:im desperate for some answers so please help. basically my problem is one that we've all heard before, the 2 guys one girl thing. basically i met this guy at a party around sep. we've been texting some,kissed once, and i have plans to go out on a date with him Friday. i do really like him except he claims to not date. i understand this, bc he's been cheated on about 7 times. i assured him im not like that bc im not (i swear).im just confused as to whether we are technically "talking". He asked me how many other guys i was talking too and when i asked him if he considered us talking his response was 'idkk do you?'. its not really my call bc he says he doesnt date. to that, he just said 'i know.. idk its just like hard for me to trust ppl in relationships' and later 'we need to hang out more...' im not sure what this means. but then about a week ago my ex decided he wanted back in the picture. we've already broken up 3 times (his idea, mine, then his again) and this time i told him im not looking for a relationship right now and that i dont trust him and that i dont know if itll happen and im not making any promises. but hes not stopping and its comprimising my thinking bc i do want back with him but i dont bc of this new guy(but idk whats going on w/ this new guy).my ex is like down on his knees,saying sweet stuff,and saying he'll do anything for me back ect to which i feel bad about and want to fall for but i dont know what to do.if me and the new guy are considered "talking" then ill stop talking to my ex if i know things will happen between me and the new guy. but if we arnt considered "talking" then i dont want to unnecissarly hurt my ex.this situation is really difficult for me and makes want to just breakdown cause i honestly dont know what to do. so thank you so so much for your advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2009): forget both of then and date a real man. sorry but i like to be honest.
The fact that he has been cheated on is not your problem and has nothing to do with you. Ive been cheated on a couple of times and I dont take it out on my next gf.
As for your ex theres 2 facts about ona gain off again relationships:
1. They always end
2. You will regret every minute you wasted in that relationship
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reader, HappyPage +, writes (16 October 2009):
This is an easy one to answer; not so easy to accept.
I say NO NO NO; GET THAT IDIOT out out out OF YOUR LIFE NOW. See? Simple.
I'm sorry.
xxxrhona
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reader, YourDestiny11 +, writes (16 October 2009):
 I wouldnt go back to your ex, give this new guy a chance! Sounds like you and your ex dont really have a chance of making it and having a good relationship and your always off and on, who wants to keep doin that!? Just keep hanging out with him, the new guy, and you will eventually earn his trust and he will earn yours also but make sure your ex is out of the picture and stays out. He said you should hangout more because he obviously likes you and wants to make sure you wont cheat before you get involved and the possibility of his heart being broke comes up again! Go for it! Good luck!
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