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writes:Is there such a thing a post wedding blues? I got married three weeks ago to an amazing woman but now I can't help feeling that I have made a terrible mistake. Shes amazing, everything I've ever wanted. There's never been any problems between us. We're both the same age, have good jobs and are hoping to get a mortgage next year. There's not really much more I can say. What is wrong with me? Why do I feel like this? Will it pass?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 October 2009):
Yes, there is. So you're normal. Focus on your wife and make sure she knows she's loved. Spend time together and do all that couple stuff. It'll pass.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2009): Yeah it's perfectly normal. Most people call this "cold feet", yeah I know all the movies make out like this should happen before the wedding, well it has to, to work for the plot in those movies. The reality is though that it can hit anytime before or after the wedding.
It comes from a sense of finality that a lot of people feel when they get married a feeling that "this is it" and this is as good as it will get.
That's not the case though, not a lot changes when you get married. You already made the commitment to be with her for the rest of your life when you got engaged. The wedding was just an excuse to party with your families and show her she's the most important and special thing in your life. All the rest is just paper work, nothing has changed.
It will pass when you realize that things will always continue to get better (granted there will be hard times). Once you get over this trapped notion and see this for what it is, then you'll be fine. Life keeps evolving it's not gonna suddenly stand still because you said "I do".
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