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writes:This is a question I had thought over even before I came to this site, I just wondered if it's okay to date a guy without having feelings for him. Previously, my affiliated school's student president asked me out. Wow, back then, I was only 13 and he was 14. I totally ignored him. Now he's asking me to go to the school dance. I've already agreed to another guy. But he's not one to give up, and asked me to date him straight away. Should I agree? If I do, I can definitely garner enough votes for the next elections and I'll definitely save trouble with all the annoyance about boys. I'm tempted, but is it wrong? Is this considered as selfish behavior? Reply to this Question
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reader, MilkPudding +, writes (14 April 2011):
MilkPudding is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAhh, now that i think about it, no. That would definely be EWw. And I guess it would be pretty unkind...
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reader, aaringurl  +, writes (12 April 2011):
In your question -- i think there's nothing wrong going to the dance with that guy. But since you've already promised to a previous engagement, I don't think you should cancel it. Not unless, if supposed-to-be-date is okay if you go out with the another guy(the student pres.)If you don't have a boyfriend and if you don't have any other attachments, then go out with him on a date, and see how things go. Going out with him doesn't necessarily mean you're his girlfriend right away. Although, if you label you're supposed kindness in a way that you're kinda using the guy, then please don't. No one wants to be a friend of benefits. Try to put yourself in the guy's shoes, Would you like to be asked out because the guy can get benefit something from you?If you really don't like him to a point that it feels awkward to be with him, then don't go. If you think there could be something, then give it a shot. Just be genuine and true, and that everything you would do mustn't have any hidden agenda in it. ^^
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (12 April 2011):
 Hi , I answered your previous question so I know the background.
Yes, it would be wrong. Very wrong !
First, you have accepted another boy's invitation. This is set- it's a committment, and weaseling out of it because you've got a better offer would be extremely rude and disrespectful. If you want to get courtesy and respect in life- you give it first.
Second, you would be using this guy, since you don't like him at all. I suppose when you like more guys about the same, it's ok to chose the most prestigious or something. But you don't like this guy at all, you only like what he could you for you. Think how you would feel if the roles were reversed.
Finally, you say you don't like boys in general, boys are EEEWWW, ..and you want to start dating ? I don't think you could handle it. He would want to hug you, kiss you, ... maybe more. He would want to hold hands in public, call you pet names..... are you sure you are ready for this level of eeewwiness ?
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