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writes:k to start off, i'm 17 (grade 11) and my boyfriend's name is kris, he's in grade 10 (16) but verrrrry cute:) i think he's amazing, basically perfect. since he's extremely popular, amazingly hot, a gentlemen, good listener, caring and the whole package..but i have one problem that makes everything badhe's about the biggest manwhore at school :/i've been dating him for 3 months now and we haven't slept together, since i don't want toi know he's slept with 32348593 girls and gotten 1234789217419274921 blowjobs and has done soo much other stuff.it bothers me how big of a manwhore he is, and he hasn't done anything sexual for a while and he's acting weirdso my problems right now...1) he's a huuuuugggeeee manwhore and known for it2) i love him but i hate how he's done so much with other girls3) he acts different when i turn him down for sex4) you wont believe this...but he slept with my best friends once. i was heartbrokenwhat do i do about him, someone please help :( !!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): run away!
Your infatuated and will eventually give in which is not a good thing. Above all you have to take care of yourself, I promise no matter what they say no one else will.Being with a guys who is so sloppy and inconsiderate will only continue to bring you pain. And again if you give in it may alse bring you a lifetime of regret.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2009): yeah that was amazing advice by the girl before me. dumping him will make YOU loook like hte bigger and cooler perosn and will make him look pathetic =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2009): Sweetie... look at it this way... if YOU dump him, even though he's so "hot" and "every one loves him" etc. etc... then you'l look like the baddest bitch around and he wouldn't be so "hot" anymore. I mean, after all, to everyone else, it would be that you had the hottest guy in school and decioded he wasn't worthy enough for you. Gives you the distinct upper hand AND lets you not keep getting your feelings hurt over and over again and he screws the next girl. That said, once they see someone (you!) who basically tells the world "yeah, he's hot... but I'm too good for him and his crappy behavior" then maybe everyone else will look at him a little differently.
Because right now, while you're letting him be a "manwhore" and still staying with him... well, right now, everybody else just sees you as dumb and/or desperate. And that's never cute to anyone.
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reader, 2old4this  +, writes (23 January 2009):
 YOU CANNOT CHANGE HIM!!!! If he changes it will because he WANTS to. And trust me it's going to take YEARS before he becomes IF EVER what you want him to be. If you like him take him for what he is. Besides, it sounds like you mainly only want to be with him because your friends want him and he's popular. I think this is a waste of time for you.
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reader, claire_youngerboyfriendtroubles +, writes (22 January 2009):
claire_youngerboyfriendtroubles is verified as being by the original poster of the questionalso, he's not just hothe's soooo sweet, a gentlemen, caring, loving and generous. he has a lot of good characterisitics and that is why i love him :)
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reader, claire_youngerboyfriendtroubles +, writes (22 January 2009):
claire_youngerboyfriendtroubles is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe's hot by everyone's standards. he's like the perfect guy at our school and all the girls want him, i'm in grade 11 and he's in grade 10 so it's not "that" bad... well my big problem now is should i take our relationship further or stick to "messing around"?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2009): In the UK, you would get in trouble with the law if you slept with the 15 year old. As 16 is the legal age over here. Maybe you should try dating boys your own age, they be more mature than Kris, even two years in teen years is massive. If he slept with that many girls, you should be careful of STD.
Honestly I don't get what you see in a 15 year old. So what if he is hot, by your standards.
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reader, claire_youngerboyfriendtroubles +, writes (22 January 2009):
claire_youngerboyfriendtroubles is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah i see your point. but i know ALL of my friends are in love with him and basically every girl thinks hes amazingly hot, so the thing is... and this might sounds weird, so i hope you get this, but i think if i dump him he'll easily date one of my friends or another girl. i do love him, and weve done sexual stuff but not sex... and the thing is, i dont wnat to date him because that way i have what the other girls dont and this way hes all mine.
ill try and change him somehow, hes just really imature and perverted sometimes. eeep! hes coming soon!
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reader, ShanL +, writes (22 January 2009):
 Now where I come from whenever a guy talks about their gf 1)talk about them back (we call it rippin') or 2)hit him and make him wish he didn't say that...... and yeah I do get he's 15 and acting his age but girl I was going out with a 16 year old and he was not a manwhore but a boywhore because he was sooooooooooooo stupid and believe me my guy is a year older and we're the same age but i told him state up stop acting like that (whoring around and acting like a 4 year old) or delete my number.
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reader, claire_youngerboyfriendtroubles +, writes (22 January 2009):
claire_youngerboyfriendtroubles is verified as being by the original poster of the questionahaha thankyou(: but the thing is, he is acting his age! lol he's a 15 year old boy and that's how they all act- perverted and imature. the jokes he says make me so uncomfortable and he even makes fun of me sometimes (through childish things tho) so im sure hes not trying to hurt me. he always has condoms in his pocket which weird me out, ive asked him about that and he says "just in case babe"...
what if he gets aggresive when i turn him down too much? :S
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reader, ShanL +, writes (22 January 2009):
I'm 17 and a virgin but my reason is because of my family having kids while they where in high school.... and I hate when guys act immature but he's 15 try dating a 22 year old that acts like your little cousin omg so immature, but ask kris no tell kris how he's acting and you don't like it and basically tell him to grow up and act his age because I understand you like to have fun but you just play toooooooooooooooooooo muchhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh :)
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reader, claire_youngerboyfriendtroubles +, writes (22 January 2009):
claire_youngerboyfriendtroubles is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni'm not a virgin, it'd be pretty stupid being a virgin when i'm 17 and he's not a virgin and he's 15! lol
but it was only with one guy, and he moved so we couldn't see eachother.. :(
but kris is much better than him, in every way
i've told him, and he just jokes around! which brings me to another problem...
hes so imature!
he's constantly joking around and its annoying me.
if i say words like "tits" or something he starts laughing,
also, hes thrown a cup of water on me when i was in the bath and once in the shower (cold water!)
he always says perverted jokes and grabs himself alot :/
like those arrogant guys do (or conceited, i dont know the word).
ughhhh :(
he's coming in two hours !
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reader, ShanL +, writes (22 January 2009):
I have Yahoo... but anyway if you're fine with taht I or anyone else can change your mind about this. 1. Are you a virgin?2. Have you ever talked to him about the way you felt about him being a manwhore?3. (Ask him) are you willing to change for me?
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reader, claire_youngerboyfriendtroubles +, writes (22 January 2009):
claire_youngerboyfriendtroubles is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou everyone!!
this is amazing advice!
thank you so much mandy :D your a sweetheart!
and everyone else, the advice is much appreciated
i dont think i was clear enough..sorry
to expand..
kris is actualy 15 :l !
i typed 16 accidently!
ahah it makes it even worse, i know
but he is UNBELIEVABLE cute/hot/handsome so its worth it :)
and we were seeing eachotehr when he slept with my friend but not dating
does anyone have msn and willing to tell me?
since i cant wait for these replies, i need quick advice!
kris is coming over tonight,
msn's?
thanks everyone, much love :)
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (22 January 2009):
 Hi Sweetheart
This is not going to be what you want to hear love but I'm telling the truth as I see it, You are going to get hurt even more than you have been if you carry on seeing this guy..He slept with your best friend, I'm taking it that it was while you two were together that this happened?
This if true is a huge warning sign and that's without all the other information you have given about him and his sexual desires..He is known as a man whore, You wont sleep with him because you don't feel its right, What I'm saying and I'm trying to word it in the kindest way I can so as not to hurt you love..Is that because he has had so many girls and these girls are probably all over him to come across someone that wont sleep with him could be a challenge for him..And if you do sleep with him the challenge could be over and he may just move on to another willing girl..I no you want to keep seeing him love and I no how hard this is for you, But you have to put you first. You know what he is capable of and he is only 16 do you think as time goes on he will stop behaving like this...After what you have said I don't, You will get very hurt more so than now, So if I were you as hard as it will be let him go. Give yourself time to heal for someone who deserves a beautiful g/f like you... If you need a chat I'm here any time PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOTS OF LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, ShanL +, writes (22 January 2009):
Well first of all if he slept with your friend while you two were together let him and her go because he probably knew that you two were friends and she knew you all were dating but if that's not the case then oh well. On the other hand If you're not ready to have sex just tell him how you feel and explain why you don't want to have sex and if he doesn't understand then to hell with him because I am a virgin and I've done that many of times but whenever you have sex whether or not it's with him be ready and not pressured because if he's such a gentleman he'll wait and stop being a manwhore just for you and out of the love he has for you.
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (22 January 2009):
First of all if a guy says hes slept with like 10 girls its probably more like 2 or 3. But even if he is that much of a hound it sounds like he likes you alot if he hasnt done anything in a while like you said. DONT give it up to him if you dont want to, of course you know that. He is young and you are probably way more mature than him. If he's willing to wait for sex with you then thats cool and just do whats best for you. But, you cannot change the way he is. Thats gonna come in time if it does at all.
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