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writes:okayyy so my n my bf have been together for a year but he just recently moved out of state....i am truly in love with him and could really see myself with him for a lllong time...we have plans of moving in together once we've both saved enough money and hes moving back to california for me...we talk everyday at least like 3 times...and hes always very concerned about me cheating on him...UNFORTUNATELY...i did cheat on him one time like a month ago and i feel like i should tell him but he swears he'll leave me if i ever did..and i believe him kinda n that is the lasttt thing i ever want to happen..the guy meant nothing to me and it totally wasnt worth it ..i have forgiven myself but i dont think he would...and i keep getting waves of guilt that i feel that he should know!! i want to just let it go bcus it will never happen again! what should i do???
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reader, zgeek +, writes (29 April 2008):
 take this as a guys point of view.This kinda relates to my own relationship in that my girl cheated on me. she never told me but she broke up with me. never giving me a good reason why. I had said that if she cheated on me I would dump her. I would have forgiven her for it. I actually would have been grateful that she actually told me instead of keeping it to herself. It was allot more painfull to be dumped withought a definate reason that it would have been if she told me she cheated on me. but we got back together. but I am paranoid about her cheating on me.that she was honest with me. yes I would have been mad he may not have as strong of a trust in you for a while but that can all be fixed with time.Apply that to your current bf.if it wasn't worth it. and the guy means nothing to you. and you realize your mistake. then don't do it again. it is a very hurtful thing to happen in a relationship having the person you love cheat on you with another guy.In your position.I would tell him. He may be even more paranoid of you cheating on him. if he dose dump you then you two where obviously not meant for each other. cause if he has strong enough feelings for you to move back for you. then he should have enough compassion to forgive you for whatever you have done. and not hold it against you.good-luck :) hope this helped.Zgeek
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reader, rproctor +, writes (28 April 2008):
You should end the relationship with him... You just cheated on him and you are now saying ohh but I dont want him to think I am cheating, even though I am cheating... What the ____ is this? This disgusts me... You should leave him, save him the heart ache... Or at least come clean and see what he does. For his sake, I HOPE he leaves you.
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