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writes:I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over 2 years now, He is sweet and wonderful and has been there for me through a lot during our relationship.(My brother died in a car accident, my parents divorced a and my grandpa died and he never left my side during any of it) I love him BUT I saome times think he doesn't try very hard at our relationship. A little over a year ago I found an old high school friend on facebook and we started talking. At first it was just as old friends catchign up then it turned into more. In the beginning it was all emotional. I woudl turned to him when ever I needed someone to lean on. We started hanging out and kinda started an emotional affair. 2 months ago things went further and we have been having sex ever since. I know that what we both are doing is wrong, he to has a girlfriend. But on the other hand I dont want to hurt my bf by breaking up with him. I know that it sounds selfish, but I feel safe with my bf. I know that at the end of the day he will eb there for me but at the same time I don't know if I love him or not.What do I do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2010): If you have to question whether or not you love your boyfriend then the answer is NO-- you don't. Why would you stay in a relationship with someone just because, it's comfortable to you? You never loved this guy thus should have never carried on a two year relationship with him. Now, you are involved with a man who has a girlfriend...do you really think something good is going to come your way in the realm of relationships? You know what you are doing is wrong...I mean it's not wrong that you dont' love your bf,but you are wrong for using him and leading him own for your own selfish purpose. One day, you may exp. how if feels to have your heart broken by someone you call yourself loving. You dont deserve to be in a committed relationship because, you have nothing to offer.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (5 May 2010):
End it with your boyfriend. He's just the safe man you have at home, and that's not fair on hin at all. I know you've been through a lot, but it's unfair of you to be out cheating on him when he has been there for you. If he finds out, you will be public enemy number one. And this other guy is just using you, because he doesn't care about his own girlfriend's feelings. You're both going to hurt two innocent people needlessly. So be kind to your boyfriend and let him go, and then end it with this other cheat and focus on your own life. If you don't, and you're found out, your reputation will be left in the gutter. You don't love your boyfriend. He's just the comfort blanket.
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reader, squirtrocks123 +, writes (4 May 2010):
think about you relationship in the future. Once you honeymoon period is done with this new fella will you still like him for who he is.
In the end i feel that if someone was willing to go through all my highs and lows and will love me forever then that person would be my only one. Speak to him about getting more involved with you. Maybe he wantsto get with you more but something holds him back.
Do you want a lifelong soul mate or a 6 month fuck buddy. Make your choice fast for his sake
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reader, raiders +, writes (4 May 2010):
 If you loved your boyfriend you wouldn't have cheated I think boyfriend is your comfort pillow.
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