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writes: I have been seeing someone and we have been getting on so well he knows a lot of my friends too so it's not like I am any girl. He has just acted so distant and failed to make plans with me over the last few weeks! I have seen him as we have all been out as a group but it has not been the time or place to talk about it. Should I ask him whats up or is this just pathetic? He is 28 I am 30. We met nearly a year ago but then we ended up getting together at a friends country house wkd. We did sleep together but we have been dating since then so it hasn't really been about sex for him. On our dates we have even gone home separately. We have both had holidays in between too and come back and still wanted to see each other. This all started in June. Last few weeks he has been a lot more distant tho but I can't see anything I have done wrong. I have not been chasing him.. What to do?? Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2012): Maybe he gets the impression that you're not interested in him since you've not been chasing him?
Sometimes people back off from things to see if the other person will chase them, that way they can find out just how keep someone is.
I don't see the harm in asking him what's going on with you two, after all you did have something going on at one point.
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (15 August 2012):
 As sad as it is, I too think you should move on. Some people are not really interested in relationships. They might be for awhile, but then they just don't care anymore.
You could question him about it, but it is likely you will receive the "I've been busy" line that really means "I don't want to see you but don't have the balls to tell you so please just go away".
I agree with Mandy that he would be contacting you if he wanted anything. And if he does contact you with a proposal of sleeping over again, don't do it. He will likely sleep with you again and then not contact you for weeks at a time until the next time he wants to sleep with you.
I am sorry to be so blunt, but you will do yourself a big favor if you move on.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (15 August 2012):
 HI
If your looking for an honest opinion, then I think you should just move on. It sounds like he got what he wanted and was just a weak man, so rather than tell you the truth he was stringing you along in hoping you would just leave him alone. If he really wanted to be with you he would be showering you with effection. I would move on and find someone who can appreiciate you for you .
Mandy xx
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