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writes:So I've been talking to this guy for some months now. We met in March and we've made out a couple of times, etc. So this past weekend, one thing led to another and we had sex. It was embarrassing. For the guy. So he's pretty well-endowed, but he didn't last more than a minute. He was a "one-minute man." I really don't get it. I really like this guy. He has a great personality, he makes me laugh, and he's really passionate. My friends tell me that i need to drop this guy because he's not satisfying, but I would like to work on it. He's fun to hang out with and I can't just let this one thing break it off. How can I help him last longer? Is there anything I can do to help him improve his performance? Or this just something that I have to live with?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2010): He's just excited to be with you. Give him time to adjust a d he will be fine. I suggest you have sex more than once in the same day and see how it goes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2010): Those arent friends to be honest if theyre telling to split with the guy just because he prematurely ejaculates. Who is to say he isnt satisfying? Only you can judge that and it sounds like he's a decent fella. Id suggest a lot more masturbation so his build up isnt quite so much. The more the build up, the hornier us men get and the easier it is to lose it. If he has less buildup due to more masturbation, the longer he can last possibly. I remember one time I was with a girl and I didnt beat off for a week. When it was time we were together, I didnt last long, but let's just say she enjoyed me playing fireman and spraying for 30 seconds lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2010): The solutions is to have more sex. And lots of it. You both have to work on techniques for slowing down and prolonging the experience, and there are so many you are going to have to do the footwork yourself.Talk it out, see if the issues are in any way psychologically related.Try to prolong your foreplay. Change up the positions constantly so as soon as one of you feels near-climax, you change so that said person is now pleasuring as opposed to actually being pleasured. This way the second person can cool down and the love-making can continue.Like I said, this isn't an exact science. You are gonna have to get frisky for a good long time to find a solution that works for both of you.And I'd dump your friends. They sound like bitches. I mean you can't dump someone after having ONE unsatisfying sex session.Flynn 24
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reader, FoX15 +, writes (21 September 2010):
FoX15 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, so the thing is, he had on a condom when we did it. And he's older than me, I'm sure he's had sex. He's cute, he's got a good personality, and he's pretty aggressive, so he's not repulsive, if you know what i mean.
He's not circumcised, so that could be a factor.
Maybe he's just really been anticipating it. I know when we first met, we always saw each other out at the clubs and everything, and he always tried to get me home, but I resisted. Then we started talking more and hanging out, and it finally happened now.
Definitely going to try out your tips.
He's a good guy.
Thanks for the help!
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reader, Nomoredrama +, writes (21 September 2010):
His "prematurity" could be due to anticipation. You have been seeing him for quite sometime and he has probably been thinking about this moment so give him a chance to get used to you and the two of you will be in sync soon enough. Also, you could suggest that he gives you some oral pleasure before hand, that way both of you will be satisfied in the end;-)
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (21 September 2010):
 Misfitchik has great points so I'll only add: If he masturbates and cums an hour or two before intercourse, he'll last longer because the sperm build-up has already been released. As you guys have sex more often, I'm sure he'll gradually learn to control himself. It takes practice. He sounds lovely though! Glad you're choosing not to dump him over this!
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reader, misfitschik66  +, writes (21 September 2010):
 lubed condoms will desensitize him making him numb down there so he will last longer
extra lube will also most likly make him last longer
how many times has he had sex in general?
is he circumsized? men who are not cut are very sensitive to sexual intercourse being that they have extra pleasure due to the skin sliding up and down
unlike the cut ones they don't have the added pleasure
most men will ejaculate pretty fast when there new to the field because of the excitement of it
be patient this will start to pass the more you engage in sexual intercourse IF all it is is simple excitment causing the problem
or he could just be one of those men who naturally cant last long and i would direct you to try the above methods i have described
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