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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi, some ideas please! I am worried cos with my boyfriend for 2.5 years now (not living together yet but planning to) and sometimes feel bored. Basically I feel I need to admire and look up to him (based on previous relationship) and while I think he is a great guy, and he knows me so well, I find it hard sometimes to look up to him as he is so easy going, happy with a job that doesnt challenge him, happy with the same bunch of friends even though they have poor social skills, doesnt really want to travel etc. Is it wrong to be like this or is it a reflection of the fact that I always seem to be thinking of what I can do next, who I can meet etc. He is a great guy I just wonder will we have enough to keep us going? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (12 November 2009):
If you havae different aims and ideas than he does, then it won't work to be honest. It is important to have respect for the person we love. I think it would be a shame to break with him if he is that great, because you might realize later that you made a mistake. Try talking to him. Ask him how he sees your future together and listen to him. If he says things that just make you bored, or that you feel simply aren't for you, then perhaps it's time to move on.
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