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30-35,
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writes:I had been seeing this guy on and off for about 6 months. For various reasons, I thought he might eventually be ready for a real relationship but I finally came to my senses and realized that it will not happen.The last time I saw him (about two weeks ago) I kind of hinted that I was looking for more and we both knew that it wouldn't happen between us. We haven't spoken since (aside from a few required interactions because we have many of the same friends).It's been a very strange/tense few weeks for me, mostly because I don't know the true story about why he lost interest in me, or at least in a relationship with me. But we were friends for a year before we started to date and I miss that. I can accept that we aren't on the same page romantically speaking, but that friendship is something I would like to pursue.He's a great friend, but kind of a bad date. So what is the best way to go about attempting to salvage a friendship? We never had sex, so in that way I think it will be a lot easier to manage. But at the same time, the fact that he hasn't texted me, even as a friend, makes me think that maybe he isn't even interested in a friendship?What do you guys think?And by the way, when we started dating he did say that no matter what happens he would want to stay friends. And I know he still maintains some kind of friendship with other exes. But at the same time, all of his most recent behaviours are a complete turnaround from how he acted when he first said that.Thanks for any advice.
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reader, Kingu  +, writes (4 September 2015):
 you said "we both knew that it wouldn't happen between us." How sure are you about that. Given the way he is acting are you sure he didn't agree to save face? The male ego is a very fragile thing and saving face is very important to them. It could be he actually really felt something, panicked and the felt hurt when he thought you didn't see it going any further. If you can catch hold of him long enough, a good talk is needed.
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