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writes: I'm leaving my boyfriend of two years because he doesn't care enough to make time for us. He works in IT and has always got his face in a computer. He's a compulsive gamer and isn't good at compromise. It's breaking my heart to go, we've been together two years and live with each other but I feel like a spare part in my own relationship-what should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2006): By what I can gather he appears to have an addictive nature. In this case everything and everyone will take second place to his gaming, don't think it's you, because he is probably like it with everyone. What you're feeling is hurt and frustrated because he is making you feel second best...Have a little break from him, do the things that you enjoy.After this time apart,see if he is prepared to compromise for you if he genuinely misses you. If he doesn't recognise that it is damaging your relationship, I would try to find someone else. Hard and hurtful as it may be, if the realtionship is making you unhappy and he is not willing to compromise, then it's time to move on. best of luck.
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reader, Babybear +, writes (25 June 2006):
This is so crazy, because a guy in my acting class was a computer poker player, and lived with his girlfriend. She was in the same spot as you, and he told us he gave up poker on the computer because he would rather have his relationship. All the women in the acting class congratulated him on making that decision. You probably already have told him this... but make it extremely clear how much this is affecting you, how serious it is, and how you want to stay with him, but something has to change. You may want to take yourself on a little vacation, and see how he feels about your absense. Go the other way darling, and I guarantee he will come to you. In a relationship, no one should be going over the 50 yard line... he should be meeting you there. Honey, I know it hurts. I am in shaky relationship myself with a guy who is having sexual problems. He distances himself from me and it feels like shit. I am with you sister! Also you owe it to yourself to give this relationship every chance. Exhaust all possibilities, and if after all that, it still doesn't work out...it's time to go. He will be like that with any girl, and it has nothing to do with you. If my boyfriend did that, I would feel the same way.
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reader, happy101 +, writes (25 June 2006):
 I no what u should do. 1st is if u love him then talk to him about it and if your 2 years even meant anything to him then he will see it your way! Comeing from a guy here!
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