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writes: My boyfriend is 46 years old. I am the same age. Whenever, we are out shopping, he really looks (I mean really staring and ogling) at teen girls about the age of 13-16 years old. I feel rather disgusted with this behaviour and I feel sorry for the young girls because you can tell this embarrasses them, as well. Do all older men do this? I have never had a bf who did this..at least not in my presence. I'm not sure how to handle this..I find it deeply disturbing. Anyone care to comment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2007): So what. I am 36 and I look too I have never done anything with a young gal. I have had the chance but there is no way I would do it. Let him look. It is healthy.
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reader, fairyangel  +, writes (18 January 2006):
 Just thank the Universe that you are not married to this pervert and hopefully you will be wise enough not to ever become his wife...If it had been MY daughter he was ogling like that, I would have him arrested and ask questions later!
He is behaving like a paedophile would and I strongly suggest you rid yourself of this man... No good can ever come from this relationship.
He has no respect for you and you seem to be intelligent enough to know this is just not on! Good Luck & Take Care
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reader, Anika +, writes (17 January 2006):
 And as for people who claim looking means he'll go further and molest someone, I do not agree with that statement. It is possible, but no more likely than it would be for a man who only looks at women ages 30 and up to molest/rape those women. The fact that he looks at them probably means nothing more than that he thinks they're cute. I think Johnny Depp is cute, but I wouldn't molest him. One of my male friends thinks I'm cute, but has not molested me. I think you can see where I'm going here. Attraction has nothing to do with what actions someone will actually take.
However, do follow your intuition. If he truly is making girls uncomfortable, like I said above, have a talk with him about it. See where the conversation goes. If you're uncomfortable with what he says, you will have to consider whether or not you want to be in a relationship with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2005): He sounds like a complete pervert to me - get him into some counselling because I'm sure that he will graduate to the next step with these girls, with or without their consent.
The fact they seem embarrased shows that he is not just having a second glance, he is full on staring. If someone did this to my teenage daughter I would call the shop security gaurds.
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reader, QUIVER +, writes (19 December 2005):
I AGREE WITH MR ED SOME CHILD MOLESTERS ARE PERSONS HUSBANDS BOY FRIENDS,AND THE ACTIONS OF THIS MAN WOULD ALERT ME AS IT MAY BE THAT THIS GO'S BEYOND JUST LOOKING!!
YOU NEED TO GET RID.
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reader, Mr.Ed +, writes (19 December 2005):
 First of all NO! men should not be doing this because this is why we are so stereotyped. Ole geezer. I don't find this behavoir appropriate because what if it's true; what if he finds them attractive? As a father of two daughters if I seen this conduct in front of me I would knock this clown out. Next what if he secretly is a child molester and doesn't admit it. Would he ever act upon it if the situation were right. Finally, if I cannot respect the woman I'm with by not looking with intent or lust then I don't trully love her now do I. You need to sit his ass down and talk to him either he knocks it off or you knock him off. He's definately old enough to know better. Good luck and great question. Sincerely Ed
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