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writes:Okay, i had a really close friend 2 years ago, and i had a MAJOR crush on her, but her super-conservative Christian views kept her from returning my affections. We kinda lost contact for 2 years, but then i tried to patch things up. It seemed to be working at first, but then out of nowhereent me an email saying she din't want to have any kind of contact with me. I was crushed. But i reallyfor her, and i don't want things to end like this. I'm an Atheist and i could never be a Christian. Even if i'll never be with her, I at least want to be her friend again.....please help.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (10 February 2010):
 "To be athiest means you find no value in waiting for sex. It means you don't find value in raising your potential kids with moral standards."
Obviously you are not an atheist, and have no idea about what they believe. You are probably a Christian, and therefore can't understand how people can have morality without God. Your ignorant ramblings about the beliefs of atheists are very offensive.
Athiest.. No belief in a god... that's all.. doesn't mean we all practice sex at 10years old or sell our children into prostitution... Please go and get yourself a better education about the whole issue.
OP, your friend probably has similar views or worse, it's best you don't lower yourself to hang out with someone so silly about the world.
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (6 February 2010):
If you are athiest and stand by your belief than being with a believer would not make for a good long lasting relationship. If you are a true athiest than you can never truely understand and respect a believers desire to worship a higher power. You are better off finding someone with similar views to yours. Like a catholic and a non denom christian can make it work. But a believer and a non believer? Eventually ur views will crash and burn if one of you doesn't budge and lean towards the others views. To be athiest means you find no value in waiting for sex. It means you don't find value in raising your potential kids with moral standards. Btw our moral standards come from the teachings of a higher power. See she believes in higher power while you believe we as humans are the highest power. I am not a hard following christian but I could never be with someone who is athiest. For you sex is simply a physical pleasure while for her feelings that stem from her faith are involved. You call her views ultra conservative but that is compared to you who has no belief. To someone who at least believes her views might not be at all conservative. Does this make sense to you?
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (6 February 2010):
Unfortunately if she's one of these super conservatives, then she's probably been told that having a crush on a boy means she's going to hell.
She's probably really torn between her feelings for you and the things she's been brought up to believe.
If you care about her then you have to let her handle this the best way she can. If she follows a faith that means she loses out on happiness then unfortunately, that's her choice.
Or it may well be her parents' choice and when she gets older she'll move out and be free to get back in touch.
You some times have to let people go. Just smile at her when you see her to let her know you don't hate her for her choice, (it may or may not be her choice) and let her get on with what she has to do in life.
It's sad, and is a reason why I really don't think organised religion is a good idea. I think it's the main reason why the Bible clearly states that Jesus didn't think organised religion was a good idea.
Sorry this one hasn't got a happy ending for you.
Good Luck!! xx
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