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writes:Well, I'm a 19 year old guy, haven't had a girlfriend for about 4 years, never been smooth with the ladies and get pretty nervous when it comes to speaking to girls that I don't know.A few weeks back we had a xmas party for work at an event that had numerous businesses in attendance and I ended up getting pretty wasted, having a dance and stuff and just having a laugh. I went to sit back at my table when a couple of colleagues came to me and told me that a girl (she is 17 btw) had her eye on me and wanted my number, so I gave it and being wasted didn't really know what was going on, I ended up going to talk to her for about 5 mins, but it was more the alcohol talking as opposed to myself, but I know I didn't say anything stupid.Waking up the next day, I could remember what went on and everything, but I didn't have any means of contacting her and didn't even have her name or anything. On new years eve, I received a text from her and I didn't reply for a day or two, can't remember why. But from then on we got chatting by text and on facebook and stuff and so far it's going pretty well.Turns out she is from a pretty posh/upper class area, whilst I'm just from a standard household, not sure if that would bother her, but seeing as we've only seen each other at a party when the lighting was dark and everything I don't want to build my hopes up that she might be really interested then if I went to meet her or something and she was disappointed. I wouldn't say I'm an ugly guy, I think I can look pretty good when make an effort, but I just lack self confidence.What I need help on, is how to advance further with the relationship. I mean, she is a really good looking girl and I want something to come of this, but I'm just not confident with girls and don't know how I can make her more interested in me or how to go on from here, I'd really appreciate any help whatsoever.Thanks a lot!
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reader, frou frou  +, writes (7 January 2011):
 If it helps, I came from quite an upper class background and was always really embarrassed about it. I used to worry that guys would think I was stuck up because of my accent. In other words: lacking self confidence happens to everyone!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2011): I wouldn't worry about the difference in background, Just get to know each other in person and see how it goes. She must like you or she wouldn't have made the effort, that should give you more confidence. Don't make text and online your main interaction- call her and go out with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2011): You can't help how you were brought up and neither can she. In the end, you're both human beings, and whether you're royalty or a commoner you still have the same feelings and desires.
Like Petina says, just be yourself. If you try to put on a false front you'll trip yourself up in no time. Be honest with her. Make time for some actual face-to-face meetings. Facebook is ok but there's nothing much intimate about it.
Best of luck mate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2011): Thanks for the response Pentinal...
I'm the guy who asked the question....it's more than I have no confidence when meeting new people, I have friends that can just walk up to girls and start conversations over nothing, but that's not me.
That's what annoys me as I think I'd be a good catch, don't want to sound arrogant or anything, but I'd spoil my gf and be the opposite of most guys these days, it's so infuriating to see the scum of the earth dating beautiful girls and treating them like dirt, when there are good people out there who would treat them well.
I think I've been myself so far, I just don't want to be too forceful or come on too strongly, it's just been general chit chat so far and it's not really gone any further that that, like arranging a meeting or anything, but I can't pluck up the courage to do so at the minute :(
Thanks again for the help
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reader, petina1 +, writes (7 January 2011):
 Just go and meet her. Take it as it comes. Don't try to be something you are not. In fact she will be endeared to your honesty if you tell her you are from the other side of the track and make light of it. Weve seen it so many times at the movies. She obviously likes you so there's your starting point.
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