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writes:What can I do, my girlfriend's parents don't let her have a boyfriend, they found out she is talking to someone on the phone every night the saw the phone bill, should I go introduce myself or what could we do? Her parents won't let her have a boyfriend and I love her a lot and she loves me too but if we hide it maybe it's better her parents won't be checking on her all the time, what can I do? give me advice please =( Reply to this Question
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (28 February 2008):
 hey hun, while keeping it secret sounds fab - it may not work out in reality - if you get caught the trust they have for her goes out the window, as would your relationship i would imagine. why not ask your gf to organise for you to go over for dinner or something? that way her parents could see that you really do love eachother, that you respect her and them, and that you are both mature enough to respect her parents wishes. if they still feel uncomfortable, you could suggest spending more time with her in their house so that they really get to know you and feel more comfortable wen your both go out. also, they were probably just freaked at the fone bill more than anything. suggest meeting them and they will be impressed that you are willing to go by their wishes. good luck and if you want any more help just email me!xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): hiii!!!!
look, I'm from brazil,but it hapens in all of the word!
I think you should have pacience and give a time for her and her parents that are tring to get used with that situation.
And it's really better you introduce your self, because then the will start to trust you!
kisses!;*
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (28 February 2008):
 They probably freaked at the size of the phone bill more than anything else. Why don't you talk with her on Skype? It's free and you can talk to one another on there all night at no charge, all you need are microphones. If you have a cam you can both put them on too. That way there won't be another big long phone bill.
www.skype.com
~Eve~
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reader, love-him +, writes (28 February 2008):
 HEY!!
It is soo good that you are wanting to introduce yourself to her parents as a lot of men i know would have just given up!! I think that would be a great idea, unless there is a specific reason why they wouldn't like you. Inside, i think they would be touched that you introduced yourself..!!
Feel free to mail me at any time, GOOD LUCK!! x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): Hey!
So this girl's parents might seem really over the top, but Im sure they just really want to keep their daughter safe.
How old is your GF? Do her parents have a rule like she can't date till she it 16? (My parents did, but they changed it)
If you are sneaking around behind her parents back, they wont trust you and will want to keep their daughter away from you.
If you go round and intoduce yourself, as a freind of their daughter's, and get comfortable around them then they will be a lot more likely to let their daughter date you.
If you really love your girl and she loves you, you will be happy to just be with eachother, and hanging out. If you spend time with her and her family, without being all over eachother, maybe watch TV, or play a game or something all together, and tell her pareant what you do, just in conversation, like "yesterday at soccer practice.." or somehting like that, they will start to trust you more and more.
The worst thing you can do is to hang out in her room with the door shut. THat will make her parents not trust of like you and make them worry. Once they know that you are a genuine guy and arent just out for sex, then Im sure they will let you guys date, even if slowly at first.
You can always ask her dad for permission to date his daughter. THis might sound old fashioned but I know my dad appreciates it and I was 18 last time i got with a boy (weve been together 2 years)
My dad says it shows respect for your elders and respect for the girl and for her family, and not like you are trying to do anything rude or dodgy with "daddys little girl" lol
ok, this is really long winded but i hope it helps!! :-D
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