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writes:I am 18 years oly. My girlfriend is 16 and we have been dating for 10 months. At first her parents were awesome, i would want to go over there all the time not just to see my girl friend but to see her parents. But things have slowy started to change. It started that we wernt allowed to be home alone, understandable. Then we wernt allowed to be in the basement watching tv even though we didnt want to watch what her mom was watching up stairs. Now i am not even allowd over there. I have been there once in the past 25 days. We are only allowed to hang out 2 times a week for only acouple hours. My girlfreind and her mom are constantly fighting, usually about me. Her mom thinks i am controlling and she thinks i try to make her fight with my girlfriend. I have already tried to talk to her but it only bad things worse. What can i do!? Reply to this Question
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reader, chrissy32789 +, writes (12 April 2007):
 Dear just4kicks07,
this may sound really stupid to you but honestly it works my ex boyfriends mom really hated me and she thought i was trying to get her son into trouble but what i did was write a note to him and say all the good things....like in your case write your girl a letter and be all sweet about it and be like baby i dont think i am controalling you but if i am can you please explain to me what i am doing wrong so i can fix it you mean the world to me ect...and be like dont fight with your mom about me if she doesnt want something then respect her ect. and then let your girlfriend read it and let it lay around some where where her mom can read it it should work let your gf know what to do about it but dont put it in your letter of what your planes are lol....well good luck
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (12 April 2007):
 Every parent has a different idea about what is acceptable in their own house, perhaps the "alone in the basement thing" was the deal breaker. You have to gradually get back into their good books by following the house rules. There is no point in even trying to make a right/or/wrong arguement about this! If you really care about her, she comes with family - and blood is thicker than water. Her family are not all about you being the bad guy, they love her! What they are interested in is her future happiness. Are you being respectful? Are you demonstrating to them that you care about her and respect her? Are you encouraging her to go against her family's wishes? Even IF you think that her family is unreasonable and being strict, you still HAVE to respect them, they are her parents. Once they see that you do respect them, they will give you a bit more space.
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