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writes:my girlfriends parents, i WAS on good terms with her but with the past events with my gf, i think she really dislikes me. the reason:i went to my girlfriends house without her parents knowing,and i swear all we did was kiss on the lips and talk and watched tv, i ate subway, which i bought and shared with my gf... and got there around 11 in the morning and her mom came around 2 in the afternoon, so of course when she got there i panicked and ran to my gfs room in to her closet... then the oh my f*cking god moment happend. her mom open the closet, she was surprised i was there and now there is my reason she dislikes me... Please dont think im a bad kid because i snuk in there house, its the only way to see my girlfriend becuz her parents wont let her do anything with me, expecialy her step-dad...this happend a week ago?we've been together for 3 months last Saturday and i love her and could never imagen of getting bored with her, ive never felt this way twards another girl but her...so my question is : how can i make things better? and how can i convince her parents on letting us on a real date?( weve never been on a date... :() Reply to this Question
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reader, Dataluke  +, writes (18 August 2011):
 My friend you can fix this but it will take a lot of ass kissing.
Firstly you need to go to her parents house and apologise, and mean it. Until their daughter is 18 they are in charge and you have to respect that. Tell them you are sorry for disrespecting their authority and that you want to earn their trust back. Only mention their daughter if they do. Don't expect results straight away, they won't like you for a long time. But they will respect the fact that you had the courage to go back to them and apologise face to face, that will earn you some browny points.
It will take some time but if you stick at it you should be fine.
All the best, Dataluke
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (17 August 2011):
 You may not be a bad kid, but you made a BAD choice.
You can not convince her parents of anything.
You see, she is still a kid in their eyes, a minor, and they get to make the rules as they continue raising her until adulthood.
YOU were an uninvited guest HIDING in their house. What you made yourself look bad. People doing nothing wrong do not hide.
If you want to make things better, first you need to realize who is in authority here. THEM.
Then you need to see their point about why they are upset. You did something wrong.
Go apologize expecting nothing in return. You have to mean it, not just because you want to see their daughter. You can tell them you would like to date their daughter, but you are going to have to find out what their rules are.
Maybe their daughter is not allowed to date until she older.
If you want them to EVER allow you back in the house or to see their daughter then you need to show some respect to them and EARN respect from them.
Talk to your parents about what you did. If roles were reversed how would they feel?
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reader, BJacobs +, writes (17 August 2011):
 This is the thing about teen dating that sucks the most,I know exactly how you feel. My past two relationships have been like this and it SUCKS, all i can think of is to talk her parents and gradually get their trust by doing so repeatedly. It may take awhile but if you like her as much as you say you do then the wait shouldnt be a problem. Also maybe have your parents meet hers, that might help smooth things out some.
GOOD LUCK i hope things work out better for you than they did for me!
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