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anonymous
writes:Theres a guy who I've liked for ages now, and whenever we meet up (which isnt often) we always act like we're a couple, kissing, hugging, and I had my first time with him. He was buying me meals, and drinks.. never used to let me pay for anything. Although nothings ever been official, as we live quite a distance from eachother, so we never see eachother much. Although I'll be moving nearer him soon. He always calls me 'his' and we flirt through emails.A few weeks ago, I was wondering what was going on with him and a girl, as they had been going out quite a lot, and commenting eachother on a social networking site. On Friday I saw a message from Gemma, asking asking if he was still seeing this girl.I'm absolutley devastated, I'm in tears, I actually thought I meant something to him.. but I just don't know what to do. I don't want to confront him, but I want to be with him. I just don't know where I go from here, do I just act like nothings happened, and see how it goes?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): You should never just take someones "actions" as a sign of commitment, you always need to be sure of it. That means, talking to that person & asking if they feel the same way you do & making sure you are both on the same page. "Acting" like a couple & actually "being" a couple is two totally different things.
What you need to do now, is talk to him and express your concerns, don't just pretend nothing happened, you deserve to know where he stands. He was clearly using you which is not right at all. And treat this as a learning experience for the future. Yes it hurts right now, but you CAN get through it, you are young and you have so much more to do and so much to live for, including another chance to be in a real relationship with someone who really loves & respects you! Keep your head up, you'll make it:)
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