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writes:I have a gf we've been together for 3 years and it's been some real origional love story, we love each other to death she's soo caring all she wants is to make me happy, but since she finished high school(last year), and I have one more year to graduate from uni, and I thought her first year in uni would be fun and stuff, but she's making a lot of friends and 3 of them are guys, I always thought that I'd be cool about it and I would if things were normal, coz there's a little problem. I can't see her in her university because for 3 years her dad forced her to wear "hijab" the scarf muslim girls wears and she has to wear it to uni and she doesn't want me to see her with the hijab on ever, but it's killing me that she's spending all those beautiful mornings and when I call her she's laughing with them and I really really want her to spend those mornings with me since it's my last year in uni, the guys she knows, I know nothingh about them, she always tell me bad stuff about them like they're ugly they're stupid bla bla bla, but also sometimes she tells me how gentle they are and how much they care and she has known them for only 3 months, it's just freaking me out! I waited all that time for her to finish school so we could hang out more together, we talk a lot, we don't see each other that much in weekdays, so she basically sees them more than she sees me, I don't have a problem with her making friends with guys, but what's happening right now is just crazy, and I can't ask her to stop talking to them, but I really really want her to, or at least to take it easy a little bit. She never goes out with them though, and she doesn't like them all the same, there is this on guy who she likes a lot and they even sms each other and phone calls and chat after uni, and I once caught a message on her mobile and it said "heey you asshole I miss you soo much, I wish I had credit to call you come on get ur ass online XOXOXO"plzzz am sleepless and I need an answer
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reader, LampHead  +, writes (24 February 2009):
 I was in exactly the same situation. My girlfriend went to College when I was still at High school, and all her new friends were guys. She started flirting and stuff, especially with this one guy. It got so bad that they saw each other every day at college, then met up about 3/4 a week after college to, and I only saw her about once a week. It was horrible, I could not sleep, I was worried that she would cheat on me. I asked her about it, and she denied it, but I ended up finishing our relationship, as I could no longer cope with the worry.
She used to be texting him, while I was with her, and when I met up with her, he often came, and they would be hugging and holding hands in front of me.
She ended up going out with this guy, but it ended in a few days, apparently he treated her really badly. Its been 3 months since all that happened, and we had a phone conversation last night, in which she admitted she still loved me, and really missed me, she also apologised for what she had done to me. I'm glad she did all this as I was still really upset about our relationship ending, I missed her so much. When we had broken up, it felt like my life had been ripped apart.
She no longer speaks to this guy, and has calmed down a lot. I think we may be getting back together again, so even if you do brake up, THERE IS HOPE!
Good-Luck. :)
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