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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My g/f keeps telling me about all the blokes 'bits' she sees at work. She is a radiographer so i can see that the medical profession should be used to this but she tells me she has never studied this and that there is no need for them to be naked, they just get naked and she sees. I shouldn't be insecure but i've found myself getting a real complex.I thought it was bad enough her saying about all the old men that sit there with things dangling out (she mocks them saying about how small they get when they are older)but she simply told me yesterday " i saw a blokes willy today, he was about your age. Good looking chap".and she also tells me when men get aroused as she is x-raying them and how big they are. I feel stupid for feeling wound up about it but it effects me and i wish it didn't. I'm insecure about myself and we don't really have a sex life yet and the fact she's seeing all these genitals makes me feel even worse!I don't like to feel childish by feeling this but i'm an insecure person with out much experience in intimacy and she isn't helping, especially when she seems so judgmental and mocking towards the more 'sensitive areas'!
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (20 March 2009):
 She sounds utterly unprofessional, and shouldn't work in a medical field if she acts this way!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2009): What are you doing with someone who not only puts men down but is so totally unprofessional regarding her work? She obviously is completely immature or just hates men. I mean, so what if older men don't look so attractice 'down there'?! She is at work - its not a sexy competition! As for mentioning the younger guy she is just trying to make you jealous and insecure which is totally wrong of her. You have already acknowledged its messing with your head - she is being abusive actually. I would tell her she stops it or you're leaving her - personally I would not even hang around.
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reader, wonderingcat +, writes (20 March 2009):
 If telling her that you prefer that she does not do in front of you as it really bothers you - thus essentially asking her to respect you - you can also try to have your "sweet revenge" by bringing home a couple of adult magazine with lots of nude girls pictures. But you need to be both careful for yourself (you might get unhealthily "hooked" to it) as well as her reactions though.
Here's what you do: Look at the nude girls pictures and make comments on the girls' bits as she does on the men's bits she sees at work. If she likes it, then maybe she does like "porn" a bit more than you think. If she doesn't like your comments, then you can sweetly say to her "You know sweetie, that is exactly how I feel when you do that to me". And then kiss her and hug her. Maybe then she realizes that how you feel - without you being patronizing to her.
Good luck!
Cat
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