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He won't take no for an answer, I'd really like to have a man's point of view on this one please.

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Question - (20 March 2009) 5 Answers - (Newest, 28 July 2010)
A female United Kingdom age , anonymous writes:

I have had a male friend for a few years now, he`s ten years older than me and married. All he wants to talk about is sex, he`s tried every trick in the book to get his way too. Although I want to stay friends with him I`m not intrested in anything else and have told him this over and over as diplomatically as I can because, I don`t want to launch an attack and really hurt his feelings, so what can I do about it.

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A female reader, TURTLEHEN United States +, writes (28 July 2010):

We women have been trained in this culture to 'be nice' and 'be polite'.. to our detriment. You see in him what's nice and can't see that what else is there. What the others have said is true...if he was a REAL friend, he wouldn't put you in this situation. FRIENDLY does not equal FRIEND

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A male reader, Mr Me United States +, writes (20 March 2009):

Mr Me agony auntI'm too tired to read the other replies, but I'm just going to be blunt in my response: drop him as a friend.

You're his friend because you feel you share interests at some level. He's you're friend because he wants to get with you. Considering he's married, that's not right. Find someone else to fill his gap to share the interests you to have in common. Remaining friends with him is only giving him more chances to try more excuses and flirtations with you.

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A male reader, ArmyMedic United Kingdom +, writes (20 March 2009):

ArmyMedic agony auntHe only cares about sex and not your feelings, tell him straight, any REAL friend will understand, and it is only a matter of time before his wife finds out about you!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2009):

This guy wont give up pestering you until he has his way. Either tell his wife what is happening or stop all contact with him. By staying in contact with him you are keeping his hopes up that one day you will perhaps have sex with him.

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A male reader, harmony09 United Kingdom +, writes (20 March 2009):

hey there,

How are you?,I really think that you should be strong here

And less of what he may lead to believe that you are .

I'd say he thinks if he keeps at you he'll eventually get his way

I hate guys like that well woman aswell actually

Unless he has something on you as some kind of hold then open your eyes

Here it's bit you that he's actually interested in it's mearly what he can possibly obtain from you .

You sound very much of the piece keeper is it that you know his wife aswell ?

This guy is no friend and he obviously doesn't respect you as he's doing thee typical alpha dominant male thing here not listening .

Not a good man

He's married trying with yourself no sorry he's a shxt no respect for his wives feelings nor emotions or yours .

You could give in then he gets what he wants he gets an ego boost then leaves then you feel guilt and may become involved in messy divorce if goes that far.

To mr you don't sound like the type to like confrontation so get him told

You can't be nice all of the time

Yes one option is to tell his wife then that'll get you hasstle in long run he'll begin to blame you

However if you tell his wife if you have proof as in video shell thnkyou 4 it

And you'll make a new friend gain her respect and some of your own

He's not listened so far he's never going too unless he's shocked i2 reality

He's not a young boy anymore his kind doesn't deserve live of good woman

Try getting him upon a dictaphone recording so you have evidence

Nothing worse when it comes to light you'll be blamed for it

Tell him sturnly to piss off and don't come back

Don't warn him that you'll inform his wife it's been going on too long

Just do it

You'll feel better within yourself and you've stayed true to yourself that's what counts

Girl replyed befores right get friends that are true new ones

A true good friend is a reflection upon ones true inner self !!!

Take good care

Best of luck with your situation

Stand up for yourself don't be afraid

He keeps trying as be thinks you won't say anything and really want him to chase you

:x

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