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writes:one of my friends thats a girl has a boyfriend. i don't know alot about their relationship but the things my friend has told me he doesn't treat her well enough mostly when shes around her friends. the other day she was with her friends and she saw him at college and he looked at her and that was it no hi or hug or kiss nothing and she was a bit mad about it.i like her. ive liked her ever since we have met back in september and have seen her do things that makes me think she likes me but ignored then. but over the last few weeks or so she has been doing things that people would saw she likes me even though she has a bf. she was even texting me when she was with him last night, also my mum and dad could be splitting up and she has been really supportive and giving me advice cause her mparents split when she was younger as well.she has been saying stuff about her bf to us like saying he doesn't do things etc. etc. and the last time she did this she broke up with her previous bf. should i just ask her if she likes me to get it out of my system without saying i like her unless she returns the favour?
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reader, SMARTERthaniappear  +, writes (19 June 2011):
 If I were you I'd give he advise on the relationship she is currently in. I wouldn't just flat out ask her if she has interests in you when shes probably in a weak and upsetting state with her current bf. Show that you like her by getting her out of her unhealthy relationship thus making her single. Than you should see if she has interests in you. BTW you can't believe eveything a girl tells you. I know a lot about that being a girl myself. The guy she's dating could be really good to her. And her flirting with you could be just for fun or to mess with your head. Just a thought.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2011): I agree. Complaints have nothing to do with intentions of breaking up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2011): Many girls are...natrually flirtatious. Girls have led guys on by accident for a long, long time. For example: If a guy is funny, their laughter can be interpreted as flirting. I apperently led on a good guy friend of mine by accident and now i feel horrible. As the other readers said, if she hasn't dumped him by now, she probably still likes him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2011): I agree with Caring Guy. If you let her know too soon she'll probably just get confused. Just continue to be the friend that you have been. She will get tired enough to leave at some point... Wait until she is available to let her know how you feel about her. Even further, wait until you think she's over him. You don't want to be the rebound guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2011): Caring Guy is right, it means absolutely nothing. One thing I've learned over the years is to never, ever believe a girl that says her boyfriend is not a good boyfriend or he treats her badly. If that really was the case then she'd dump him. Do not think for a second that you being a good friend to her or her shoulder to cry on is going to win her over. It doesn't happen that way, all that will happen is you'll fill an emotional gap that her boyfriend doesn't but he'll still be the one she goes to for intimacy and sex, while you sit back being crushed.OP girls complain about their boyfriends all the time to friends, it can be the most menial thing or it could be something that really annoys them but at the end of the day they're with that guy and not you. That says it all. If you were better than this guy as a romantic prospect then it stands to reason she'd be with you instead don't you think?OP you really don't know enough about her relationship with this guy to make a judgement anyway. You've only heard one or two things about him and besides girls your age tend to like bad boys. She seems to be this kind of way too seeing as this is the second boyfriend she's been bad mouthing. As regards friends telling you she acts like she likes you, friends are idiots OP. They have the best intentions but they have a tendency to over-romanticize things, look for the best most optimistic outcomes but the reality is usually very different.Stop looking for signs that she likes you, the biggest sign of all that you seem to be trying ignore is that she has a boyfriend and that's not you. So until she's single and until there has been some intimacy that is beyond the level of friendship, kissing, fondling etc. Then nothing she does is a sign of anything more than her considering you a good friend.Just wait and see what happens. If she dumps him fine, be there for her and make a move when you think she's ready, until the do nothing and don't fall into the role of white knight and confidant, believe it or not by fulfilling that role you'll just give her the emotional strength to stay with the other guy or even worse you'll be friendzoned.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (18 June 2011):
Unless she dumps this other guy, don't do anything. The fact that she's still with him most likely means that she still fancies him, and you coming along and saying you like her will only make you look bad.
What you don't want is to wind up being used as a shoulder to cry on, with loads of broken promises. Remember that the wrong woman can use men as much as the wrong man can use women. Those signals simply don't mean anything without her dumping him. She could even be trying to make her boyfriend jealous, and is using you as the tool.
Until she dumps him, leave her be.
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