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writes:Ok so me and my friend have gotten really close. So close that we're expressing our feelings for each other even though she has a bf. I always thought they had a perfect relationship but turns out they didn't she recently started telling me all his faults and how I am the total opposite of those faults. I kept pushing how I could be better than him and she was buying it. But she just won't end it with him. So last night we were really open and to make a long story short I gave her every reason to leave him but all she could think about not hurting him.i got mad and I told her she was hurtin me. She said I was right and dat I should move on and find some1 who could make me happy cause she couldn't she was very apologetic saying it was her fault. She thanked me for every thing and said goodbye. I said goodbye but she is the one who makes me happy and I make her happy. Her bf doesn't make her happy she said so but she says he doesn't deserve her leaving when he did nothing wrong. So now I wanna know how I can take back that good bye and end their relationship. And please don't just say I should take her advice ,we belong together. Please any help at all
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reader, lushlass93  +, writes (8 June 2008):
 she likes you but she doesnt want too hurt her bf so you ashould try and talk to her again explain that althouhg she doesnt want too hurt his feelings he doesnt make her happy and she should think of herself he wil find someone else and be happy and she can be happy with you
good luck xxxxxx
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reader, lexilou +, writes (7 June 2008):
 She's just being polite, she doesnt want you she is happy with her boyfriend and has no intention of leaving him for you. No one has a perfect relationship you know, they may think they have during the 'honeymoon' period but there are flaws in every relationship, its how you deal with them that matters.
Move on and find a single girl who love you and want you as much as you want them x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): I suggest you respect her wishes, stay her friend but give her a little time to work this out. It must be tough on her and I am sure she might just need some time. I believe if you really care for her, give her a little "rope" some time to work this out for herself.
Hang in there, good luck!
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reader, rcn +, writes (7 June 2008):
 You can't. It's her decision. You were wrong by stating how you could be better than him. Reason being, your comparing yourself to someone else. It's not what you can do better, it's what you can do period.
You then made her feel as if it's her fault. No, it's not. Even though you want her. You can't blame her for making her choice.
What she's lacking is personal self worth. She should know, whether it be with you or someone else, she deserves more than what she's getting. People deserve to have true love. If who they are with is not the one, they have the right to admit that to themselves and move on. Their is no obligation to stay with someone who it's knowingly not going to work out with.
She's a very caring person, caring for his feelings. That's okay. What's not okay is ignoring her feelings and who she is, to avoid hurting his feelings. She is and always will be the most important person in her life. People have to take care of themselves before they can expect the ability to take care of another, or to have a relationship that truely works for both people. Those who seek a relationship to fill a personal void, are relationships that never work out. It's like buying a new car to make you happy. Wonderful at the beginning, until the new wears off and boom the void still exists.
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reader, Emilyneedshelp +, writes (7 June 2008):
 You should talk to her and figure out why she is still being with that guy if he dont make her happy and all that.. But i dont kno exactly how you both feel bout one another but all i have to say is never give up becaues if yaw shared yaws feelings then hey maybe shes testing you out you should chase after her and let her know that your feelings are real..
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