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writes:I need some advice on getting over a relationship after my partner ended it suddenly by text. We went away for a few days over August Bank holiday and all seemed great. Her teenage kids from her defunct marriage got on with me as well. The first day I was back at work I got a text saying it was all over and for me to move my stuff out! We've only spoken in person once since then and it's all been by text or phone call (when she answers them!) All she says is "it's not you it's me" She's made it clear that there's no going back but I suspect her ex as having a hand in it. How on earth can I get over this and move on? I would have given up everything for her and we never had an argument in the 5 months we were together!
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (22 September 2007):
 what a cowardly and dispicable way to end a relationship (my ex, suprisingly of 5 months also, did the exact same to me!)
but after alot of thinking, i decided that sometimes when you care about somebody but not as much as they do you, you find it difficult to end it even though you know you are doing the right thing, because to continue a relationship on for the sake of not wanting to upset someone is unfair on everyone involved.
you need to try and put this person behind you and move on. she was probably feeling upset and uncomfortable with this relationship for a while but didn't know how to tell you. you need to realise that constantly phoning and bombarding her with texts, won't change the way she feels.
good luck, and all the best
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reader, Rob63 +, writes (22 September 2007):
Rob63 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks baby duck for your advice. I'm trying to stop looking for a logical explanation as that's just making me worse. I really do want to move on but one of the things that's worrying me is I can't get back into my hobbies and they meant so much to me before. It's almost as if the lack of a relationship is all that matters and everything else is just too "sad". Is this fairly normal? This is the only long-term relationship I've had fail in this way and my reaction does worry me a bit. Thanks once again.
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