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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ok your gunna think I'm really wierd. But me and my bf are planning on havin sex, I'm a virgin but he isn't. But the only thing I'm unsure of is myself down below. He prefers it shaved and that's ok. But i've done it and my skin is very prickely now, and you can see them. It's not smooth like when you shave your legs. Is it normal to be like this or am I doing something wrong lol? And another question is when masterbating I can only do 2 fingers so I'm thinkin it's gunna be really painful as I've seen him and he's pretty big. I know it will always hurt first time and I dnt want anyone to tell me I'm not ready cos I am, these are just last minute nerves Lol. Please can someone answer my questions, reasure me, and give me tips and advice? Is there anyway of doing it easier, so it's less painful, and how long will it last? Just so I'm clear on what to expect. Thankyou. Reply to this Question
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (9 January 2010):
 First time sex? means, first time intercourse !!!
First time sex for female is real fear. So, it is advisable to have foreplay for many many time. It is easy to achieve orgasm after orgasm, or series of orgasm in foreplay. Allow your mind to enjoy this pleasure of orgasm freely. Let your body to scream for internal penetration, and first experience finger-penetration. repeat such fingering many time and be familiar with finger penetration. Later, penetration with erect penis will feel easy and enjoyable. Do all work together, kissing, hugging, breast touching and penetration, and check the height of pleasure, it should be orgasmic. At the right moment, means at the pick of orgasm mind will not notice any pain.
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reader, MissKin +, writes (8 January 2010):
 It's not abnormal to be 'prickly' or 'bumpy' after you shave your private area. it's a VERY sensitive area. I personally haven't ever shaved it completely. So i'm going to leave that advice up to the other aunts and uncles.
As for first time sexual intercourse, make sure you're completely excited and wet/lubricated down below before you try anything. Get him to finger you first to 'loosen' you up a little, and if he's considerate he'll take it slowly - make sure he knows it's your first time! If he's nice then he'll be more likely to be gentle. It will hurt, but it'll pass after awhile. Foreplay is really important for your first time. Make sure you tell him you're a bit worried, and ask him to take it slowly! oh and as for how long will it last? If you're talking about the pain - it really depends how gentle you are together and how 'excited' you are. Try to relax and be calm before you try anything. that will help too. And if you're asking how long the sex on a whole will last - you'll have to wait and see!
You'll be fine as long as you communicate and use protection.
Best wishes. x
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reader, missy_10  +, writes (8 January 2010):
your hair is just growing back its better to wax, it hurts but it lasts longer..... as for your concern on it hurting im sure it will it diddnt hurt me but everyone is different like everyone says the first time sucks... mine didnt... i know you think ur ready and you may be all i ask you is too please be careful i got pregnant when i was 17 and we used a condom and i was on birth control i had my baby senior year two days before my 18th birthday..... just please be extra carful
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