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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (12 April 2008):
 If you're 10, you're still under the age of prosecution. Deal with it any way you feel necessary
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008): This is a tough one, I was bullied quite badly as a child and although I told my parents I was being bullied, I felt too embarassed to tell them the full extent of the bullying. I only told my parents recently how bad it really was and they had no idea it had gone down such a disgusting route.
I would definately say tell your parents and dont leave out any details no matter how bad or embarassing. I wish I had told my parents the full story then maybe the bullying would have stopped.
It never really stopped, it calmed down a bit as I got older, but it didnt stop until I left to start Secondary school. (I was bullied through primary school).
From your age I would assume you must be at secondary already, and I assume that most of the bullying is done by other girls. Girls can be very nasty and vicious so I would try to ignore anything that they say or do. I dont know what form of bullying you are getting so here is what I would recommend for the different types of bullying:
VERBAL BULLYING: If its name calling and general taunting then they are obviously cowards and need to verbally abuse other people to make themselves feel stronger. Ussually these bullies dont progress into physically abusive bullying, so although its tough at least you know that they are just cowards who need to put other people down to feel good about themselves. most of the time if you stand up to these bullies they will back down, if you dont first. Then they loose confidence and usually leave you alone. Or if you dont like confrontation then another thing to try is ignoring them altogether. They cant hurt you with words after all they are only words. and usually if you dont react to the taunts and name calling then the bullies will get bored and leave you alone. If you really want to wind them up when they call you names laugh with them and when you walk past them in school smile at them like your mates!, that always gets them really annoyed!! they realise that you are not scared of them and should leave you alone.
PHYSICAL BULLYING: This is when a bully will hit or even throw things at you to cause you physical harm. these bullies can be dangerous and I would reccommend that you speak directly to your Head of year or Deputy Head Teacher about this, as any form of physical abuse is not acceptable full stop!. Obviously you should speak to your parents first and tell them everything that has happend to you, they should speak to the headmaster or mistress straight away. It would'nt supprise me if the bully was seriously punished at home as well as being either temporarily removed from school or even expelled.
I know its hard when your being bullied but please remember that you are not to blame for the bullying and its not your fault these people decided to target you.
The other thing to remember is that although your having problems now, just remember that school is a small part of your life and once you leave school these problems will be left behind xx.
I hope I have helped you, and feel free to speak to me at anytime.
all the best xxx
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reader, justme! +, writes (11 April 2008):
 to be honest i think you shouldnt tell your parents because they would tell someone and get you hurt even more ive been bullied before so i told my friends and they got the builles back i was left alone after that !you should tell a friend or face the bulies and tell them that your stronger try to avoid them also maybe they will get bored and leva you if that tell me how is goes
lots of love
just me
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008): Go straight to your parents now and tell them all, if that isnt going to happen then go to your teachers at school, but never ever be bullied and let them get away with it.
take care xx
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reader, daniellexxxx +, writes (11 April 2008):
 telling your parents may make it worse i mean there only going to go to your school speak to someone and they will talk to the bullys they will laugh it of or bully you out side of school.
I was bullyed it's not nice but the best way to beat the bullys is beat them stand up to them they will get the picture but if they don't tell your mum and dad tell them how you feel they might be able to sort it.
Good luck hun.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (11 April 2008):
 You need to tell your Mum and Dad right away. Get them to talk with you and your teacher about your being bullied. Please don't be afraid to talk to an adult about this, you are not the first child to be in this predicament, and you haven't done anything wrong. Together, you can all figure out a way for you to get through this. If it's girls or boys in school, their parents should know about their behavior. Good Luck Hun.
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reader, MissKin +, writes (11 April 2008):
 Bullying is a really serious issue. Not just physical bullying. Name calling and such like are classed as emotional bullying.
I know children think telling an adult will make it worse. But you really need to tell an adult. a parent. a teacher. an older friend. a brother or sister. But make sure they handle it in a way that you find acceptable.
How are you being bullied? where are you being bullied? who by?
It's more than likely at school i'd imagine, in which case tell your teacher or your parents. Teachers are sometimes better to tell i find because parents are far more emotionally involved.
One thing to not do is to let it continue without doing anything at all.
Also it might be an idea to learn to 'defend' yourself. Not to learn to get into fights and beat people up and become a bully yourself. But if someone tries to hurt you, you need to know how to react - think about maybe enrolling in self-defense classes? talk to your parents about it. It boosts your strength, your ability to look after yourself as well as increasing your self-confidence which reduces the chances of bullying.
Don't let bullying carry on.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008): Tell your parents? If you cannot tell them then tell a teacher who you get along with. But do not let this continue to happen. It has to be stamped out now. I was bullied at school and it is awful, i know just how you feel. I told my mam and she went to the school. The bully was told to stop and she did, then it returned and i did the same. Dont put up with it, tell someone.
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