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*earywife
writes: First and foremost, my husband when we got married was in great shape. Now, he is almost 400 pounds ( not the point) but anyways, ive caught him on hook up sites creating ads on craigslist for sex even with men and im so disgusted! His actions and his looks repulse me! when he gets on tiop of me i wanna puke and i have to close my eyes otherwise i will cry! he reminds me of an old man wearing bottlecap glasses watching porn while masturbating! EEEEEWWWWW! so gross! weird thing is i love him and i dont know why. but my problem is that my husbands friend is really good looking and everytime i see him i swear im wet by site! verses my mouth watering from feeling nauseous from seeing my husband naked! i would rip my eyes out if i could but i love him and cant find myself able to cheat but i am so sexualyl frustrated i dont know how much longer i can handle this! eeewww he sweats and weezes when he eats! i love him but im on the edge what do i do?????? i need some advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2010): I do not mean to trivialise the seriousness of your plight by pointing out that your post made me collapse with convulsive laughter until my cheeks and jaws hurt.
Dear Wearywife. You are 18-21. How long have you been married, how old is your husband, and how long did it take him to go from being 'in great shape' to 400 pounds?
It's sweet and touching that you love him. It's also a bit troubling that, as your post hints, you perhaps don't find him irrestibly attractive.
I am completely stumped for constructive advice, though. Sorry about that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2010): You need to dump his sorry ass! Date his friend! YOU deserve better!
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reader, wearywife +, writes (16 June 2010):
wearywife is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank yuo for your answers i really appreciate it!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): You and your DH are too young to not act wired. So expect all sort of sex related things at this age of your Hubby. it will not be there after 5 years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2010): I think you should leave whilst you are still young, your husband needs to understand.
Think about you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2010): tell him he needs to loose weight, its so unhealthy to be that size he'll die at 50.
i think he is taking you for granted, he should stay in shape FOR YOU.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2010): A man going from great shape to 400 pounds and seeking sex online with other people? That is more than enough reason to justify divorcing him right there.
At your age I assume you have only been married a few years or less. You need to have a serious talk with your husband and you need to rethink your marriage. This is a whole lot of trouble very early in the relationship. Don't focus on the friend you're attracted to, focus on either fixing or ending your marriage.
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reader, Hiba O  +, writes (12 June 2010):
Hey there, try talking to him and tell him how u feel , Also u should confront him and put an end to these hook-up sites ... Also explain to him that he needs to lose weight and that he is becoming less attractive.. The truth hurts but it is for your benefit.
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reader, HEARTS21 +, writes (12 June 2010):
Oh my!!! Ya know... You need to think of you girl! If he loved you he wouldn't have let himself get that big. Married or not I wouldn't allow someone to get on top of me if they disgusted me that much. This is the most challenging post on this entire site. Love is one thing but how can you be expected to be with someone romantically that your not attracted to. Is it possible to talk to him about how you feel?? I know it's probably hard because you do love him. If your not satisfied and are attracted to someone else I don't think you would be held tooo accountable for your actions (everyone would understand) IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT THAT HE LET HIMSELF GO SO start thinking about you
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