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writes:I have been married for 6 years and have 2 kids. Everything seems to be going on fine except in the bedroom. I have spoken to him,guided him, given him books to read and don't know what more I can do. He's simply just not up for it. Sometimes I wish he was on this site so he can read some of the stuff that's written here. Most of the time, he's in a rush in bed or says he's tired and can't do the foreplay session. Before we got married it wasn't like this in case you're asking if it was ever different. At imes he puts in a bit of effort but its just getting frustrating. He's always satisfied but that's all he tries to achieve. I don't want to look out and end up masturbating which wasn't exactly what I had bargained for.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Tennisstar88 for your advice would work on it. Charliesdevil. You can actually relate to this question because you're someone who shares my point of view. Relationships need to be worked on and spiced up to keep it going. Thanks y'all.
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reader, charliesdevil73  +, writes (3 October 2011):
 Have you mentioned bringing in toys? My husband and I used to have sex with a lot of foreplay when we first started dating and it died down shortly after we moved in together, which was a little over a year ago. I kept asking for more foreplay and he would give me some for a few times and then go back to none. Well, he finally listened and bought me what is called the mystic wand. It is an awesome vibrator. It is only for clitoral simulation, unless you buy an attachment, but I love it. He enjoys it also, so it is a win win situation.
You could also try watching a dirty movie together if you'd be willing to do that. You could act out what they do in the movie, just make sure to get one with lots of foreplay! I haven't tried that one myself, so I'm not sure about how well it works.
Good luck and I hope you get what you want.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (2 October 2011):
 It always seems like the sex dries up after you get married..I mean you're going to be having sex with the same person for the rest of your life, where's the fun in that??
That's when you got to switch it up and start being a whore (not literally) in the bedroom. Lingerie, Halloween is coming up so you can nab some sexy costumes for role play, get a baby sitter for the kids one Friday night and take a mini-moon in a nice hotel, introduce some sex toys during sex, etc.
If you're not comfortable with any of that, then maybe it's time to try a sex counselor. Just some ideas.
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (1 October 2011):
 if u can,send the kids away for christmas. and then leave the house. seriously,leave him on his own. when he asks why u want time away just say u dont feel like trying for something he doesnt. all the advice on the net is useless,really.(dress up for him,be sexy for him...etc. it wont work if the guy simply DOESNT WANT IT)
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