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writes: heyThe guy he loves me he is not from my country,,,well i luv him and he luv me alot he said 2 me he want 2 have sex with me and i was shocked because he knowing that i cant have sex before marry its forbidden in my religion then he said ok (i will just kiss u and touch ur boobs but i want 2 c u naked plz and u have 2 stay with me in a hotel from morning 2 night ok plz 4 me)thats what he said 2 me so im so scared i luv him so please i need ur help please...WHAT CAN I DO???
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reader, Drat001  +, writes (31 December 2010):
You say you love your boyfriend. Well, he does not love you if he is pressuring you into something you're not ready for. How many times have I seen where someone say, "But I love him?" I had a boyfriend who never pressured me for sex, and we never had it, and even though we broke up (because I moved to another country), we're still friends, and I hope to get back together with him someday. I've also had a boyfriend who kept pressuring me for sex. I didn't let him. He moved on, dated my friend, pressured her, she gave in, they broke up, he's dating someone else, she's a mess. People like your boyfriend don't love you, they just want to use you.
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reader, CommandoDude  +, writes (3 September 2010):
 You two shouldn't even be together, whatever you feel this misguided love is. Clearly your beliefs are too different to last. If you're not willing to go all the way with him, find some celibate who will.
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reader, Afridi  +, writes (20 July 2010):
This guy desire for you body.Im asking you sister do you want this kind of ugly guy for your entire life.Not at all.
Sister the life is one.Dont give your virginity to this stupid devil.PLEASE GIVE YOUR BODY TO WHO REALLY LOVING YOU AND CARING YOU.
I dont even see this kind of love in my complete life.
Sister I also fall in love with the girl sincerely.She is very beautiful.But I dont even thought of her body.And you are telling your religion is not allow the sex before marriage.Then sister will u going to submit your willing to God or will u going to submit ur body to that lust guy.think!!!!!!
Sister i think u also love him because of his beauty.This beauty is fade.Strong love is not looking the body but inside that.that is ur heart.
Dont do this kind of ridiculous thing even if he is the most beautiful person in the world.
SUBMIT YOUR WILL TO GOD.PLEASE GIVE HIM THE PRIORITY.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2010): He is going to try and make you have sex with him
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2010): Hi,,i think u have to walking away from this guy because he just want ur body not much he said to u kisses and touches while ur naked means he will be consciences on your body will resist and will push you untill u have sex with him and because u love him u will not tell him to stop,,hotel means u will be in one bed with him at the moment and then discovering that he wants your body not your love and i think if u say no he will
good luck!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2010): Say yes! I'm 30 years old & I regret saying no all my life. this could be your golden chance. just use condoms & get blood tests for stds. go for it, you're old enough, start enjoying your life or you'll regret it. for me it's too late already.
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (17 June 2010):
 Man using high pressure tactics like using love for leverage+ man wants you naked + hotel room + all day/night does not equal he loves or respects you or your convictions, nor does he wish to play a friendly game of Backgammon or checkers with you. This is only an old equation equaling he believes he'll win out in a game to play hide-the-bratwurst! Stick with your beliefs and convictions, firmly. My crystal ball shows him having no use for you later if you give in to him. Be smart. Listen to your gut, tell him thanks but NO and mean it!
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (17 June 2010):
 If the man wants you naked in a hotel room where you are to stay all night, it is so he can do his best to wear down your defences and pressure you to have sex. He has not taken 'no' for an answer, my friend.
If your initial reaction to what he is asking is fear, worry, panic or dread, then trust your gut. Tell him 'no'. If he DID love you, he wouldn't even be asking, especially knowing how you feel (and he knows how you feel – he’s places his wants above yours).
You love him and that is nice, but you will be SO PROUD of yourself when you succeed at avoiding his temptation. You will have held true to your faith IN SPIRIT (not just 'technically' or using half-measures) and maintained your honour and virtue.
When you meet the man who is worthy of your love and virginity, you will be SO GLAD you did not allow this current boyfriend to tempt you.
Good luck! :-)
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reader, C. Grant +, writes (17 June 2010):
 Spending a day alone in a hotel with him is simply a recipe for him to pressure you until you give in to sex. If you want to wait until marriage, wait with someone else. This person does not in any way respect your views.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (17 June 2010):
 DO NOT GO TO THE HOTEL WITH HIM! PLEASE! I understand where you're coming from, when you love someone you want to make them happy but this boyfriend is pressuring you for something you cannot give. I don't mean to scare you, but going to that hotel with him and getting "naked" can end up with both of you doing things that you'll regret. Tell him the truth-you are not ready and your religion forbids it. If he loves you, he will understand and will not pressure you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2010): Don't do it, if it's not something you're comfortable with then just say no.
Tell him he's moving too fast and you're not ready for any of that. Frankly if he leaves you because of this then you're better off, don't do this just to please him or it won't stop there, he'll keep pushing and pressing you to have sex with him.
I'd be careful with his request to see you naked, it doesn't take much to get into a position where can penetrate you once your naked.
I'd seriously consider walking away from this guy, he sounds like he only wants you for sex, even to the point where he's willing to ignore your religious beliefs.
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