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writes:Im 17 and entering my senior year of high school. I'm a real quiet person and I stay to myself a lot. I don't play sports go to parties or school functions and even talk on the phone with other teenagers because I kinda shy. I'm scared to do Anything involving other teenagers because I don't have close friends and I'm shy and don't like to be talked about. I don't play sports because I'm scared I want do right and will be talked about. I'm scared to go to school functions and parties because I'm scared I want have no one to talk to and I'll be just standing there because I don't have many friends. Im even still a virgin.But this is my senior their is a lot of stuff I wanna do I wanna start getting out the house so bad because I'm so bored. I wanna stop being shy and get out there because I will be 18 in 3 months and I wanna start being a adult and get out because I know nothing about the real world being at home all the time. While I'm at school I'm a real happy person I talk to people then but after that I don't know. I want my senior year to be something to remember because all my other year of high school have been crap and boring because I don't do anything and stay to myself . Is there anyway I can overcome my shyness. ANDI'm fixing to start school as a senior now, and I have this stupid thing a worry about and it's my stomach. It started my senior year because a boy in my classroom heard my stomach growl while we were taking a test because the classroom was real quiet and he laughed and said a comment every since then I worry about it. The only reason why my stomach makes gass noises is because I get nervous and worry about it doing so. When I'm not thinking about it it doesnt happen. I wish I could forget about this and go back to normal but no when ever my classroom gets quiet I start to worry and become nervous and my stomach starts all the noise and I panic and lose focus on my work. It has nothing to do with what I eat or don't eat. It's because of my worrying and being nervous about other students hearing my stomach make gas noises. This is my senior year and I don't wanna worry about this. It has nothing to do. Is there any technique or encouraging words I can tell myself so I can stop all my worrying and focus on my work to pass?[Mod note: two questions from same poster combined.]
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2011): I was, and still am, the exact same way/personality as you. however, i am going into my second year at university and started to try to break out of my shell already, so here is my advice:1) many people (at least 50% are still virgins at your age2) ask people what they are doing on the weekend and invite yourself to parties, chills, hang outs, and stuff3) get involved in things at school and in your community to meet more people with similar interestsit will take quite a bit of effort on your part.also try to go to college/university out of town or live in residence. it is easier to meet new people that way
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (1 August 2011):
 Definitely find a club(s) at school that is somewhat interesting to you and join it. It is the best way to make friends, and like the previous aunt said, it also looks very good on your college applications. Get involved. Once you take that first scary plunge, you will find the water's fine.
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reader, dominic pusel  +, writes (1 August 2011):
 change your mindset and everything will be okay, this is a free world nobody will hit you for interacting with friends, in a few month you will be 18 and you still behave like a kid, be proud of who you are, think big, let everybody become small in your eyes. Before long your will change you story.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2011): Make this your motto:
"This year I want to make as many mistakes as possible!"
I don't mean to go shoot up heroin or do something really dangerous, but the point is to stop be scared of consequences and just go out and do stuff. It's more fun that way and you learn a lot more about life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2011): Hun!
You are too cute! You are experience is so typical of being a teenager. Some people are just better at hiding their insecurities behind a loud exterior, other people build confidence a little earlier in life while others yet JUST DON"T care...
High school is just where it all begins. YOu'll find that you'll develop more as an adult in college. Thats where the fun begins, where people are much less judgmental and open to making friends. NOT as cliquey as high school.
I recommend that you use this year to improve yourself and be ready for college. So first thing, make sure you get super high grades. Second, perhaps get your parents to send you to a therapist to deal with some of your shyness/anxiety issues...that'll do wonders. Do extracurricular activities that you will need on your resume - you'll be surprised how open and friendly your fellow volunteers will be.
In school, take an effort to talk to people in class that sit beside you, also join a club or two (anything you're interested in) where you can build your resume and also meet people with similar interests. Once you start making friends invite people to the movies on friday/Saturday night or go play some pool...just be easy going about things. Sometimes people will say yes and other times they'll say no (because they're busy, they aren't that social, and so on). Just be laid back and things will happen the way they're meant to be.
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