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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I get pain during intercourse and I find myself being less interested in having sex anym ore, I even think I have no libido, what to do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2009): I've been through this. The girl I was with had had a terrible first sexual experience, so it took some time to get her to relax while being naked. Then it took some time to relax while having sex. This involved long weekends away where we could just lie in bed and cuddle and try stuff. One way to get in the mood is to start while you're on the phone. That way there is no physical pressure on your body to perform. I find that you could tell him what you want to do to him and then get him to do it to himself. You may find that being able to turn him on and satisfy him, will make you relax and start to enjoy your own body
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 September 2009):
It doesn't sound like your husband/boyfriend is putting enough effort into foreplay and making you feel relaxed. If you're finding sex painful, it's because you're not ready for it. And if it's painful, of course you're going to lose interest. So have your guy spend time on your body and get to know it. Then you'll be ready.
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