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writes:Kay , well ive been dating this guy for a year now and he wants to get married ...and im only 18 !I cant get married !!!!Dont get me wrong ! I love him and everything but like Crap .... i need to focus on my life .AND ive already broken up with him 2 times , we just got back together ( BIG MISTAKE )And i just CANT do it anymore , Im to stressed and im going insaneHes very .... clingy ...How do i break up with him ... again ... ? :'(
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (8 October 2008):
 You're going to have to hurt his feelings, and there isn't any way to make that easy. He's going to have to learn to take a break up, it is part of maturing and life. If he's too clingy, this might help him understand that he has to change that aspect of himself.
Just be brutally honest with him, that you do NOT want to be in a relationship now. Don't tell him he's a great guy and that you love him, this will give him false hope. You don't have to be mean, but be firm and stay consistent.
"I don't want to get married to you."
"I don't want to be in a relationship with you."
"I am too young, and I have my whole life to live. You have to get over this and move on yourself."
Don't try to stay in contact with him for the first few weeks or months. This will only prolong his agony and might result in you being emotionally blackmailed into getting back together with him. Tell him you need a clean break for now, that you are moving on. Then do it, and stick to your guns. Just because he's a limpet doesn't mean you have to be an invertebrate too.
Good luck, stay strong, his feelings are his own, don't let him make them your problem. Okay?
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (8 October 2008):
 Get a grip and just end it! Dont let someone keep manipulating you to get back with them if you really dont want to.
Hows it gonna be if you actually go down the road of organising a marriage?? How terrible!
I got married at 18, people told me not to, did I listen? No, and it didn't last. Had shed loads of living left to do! Both of us did. Divorced 16 yrs ago, and mates now, but both agree we were only kids! Dont mean that horrible, I am 37 afterall!
But you really need to get out of this if the guy does your brain in and move on.
C xxxxx
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