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writes:how many people out there actually believe everything is fair in love and war?what are your reasons?do you believe in fate?destiny?my boyrfriend he said fate interfered and brought me to him.things are complicated though, should i take a stand and fight for him and our love? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question"The most significant relationships are the ones in which people feel realized. They feel understood, appreciated, respected and most importantly the ability to be honest, vulnerable, accepted and loved, and vice-versa about their lover. These are the ingredients for a long lasting relationship." - poster one
"Fate only provides chances when you use your free will." - poster two
this is precisely how i feel
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (8 October 2008):
I do believe in fate.
I believe that I got together with my first boyfriend and it was fate... I learned so much and did amazing things with him. But I also think it was my fate to move on from him and do more in life.
If I hadn't been with him I wouldn't have been the person I am now. But if I hadn't broken up with him I wouldn't have done half the things I have done and I wouldn't have met my husband.
If you relationship has come to it's end then don't fight for it just because fate brought you together. Do what you think is best.
Fate only provides chances when you use your free will.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2008): As far as taking a stand goes, I not sure what you would be standing against since you don't mention any problems with your relationship but ask about fate and fairness in love.First on fate....Personally I don't believe in fate. Believing in fate means that you believe some other force governs the path you take in life and that you have little to do with it, you don't have to take responsibility for your choices. However, if you are religious, then you will know that Christians believe that one of God's greatest gifts to humankind is free will. With free will we have ability to choose rightly as well as wrongly and the ability to give as well as take. I do feel though certain people and certain relationships are one of a kind. You are still quite young but by the time you are 30 you will have had a least a few boyfriends. From the few, there might be one or two people that stand out in your memory apart from others. Now multiply that by a few decades. By the time you are in your 40s or 50s you will have had many different relationships (I am not simply talking about romance) and from those years of experience you might be able to declare one or two as having major significance in your life. Some people call them "soul mates". The most significant relationships are the ones in which people feel realized. They feel understood, appreciated, respected and most importantly the ability to be honest, vulnerable, accepted and loved, and vice-versa about their lover. These are the ingredients for a long lasting relationship.Secondly on fairness, just as in war, there are no certain outcomes when it comes to love. The saying implies that love is worth the gamble of not knowing for sure if a relationship will work. The best anyone can do is be honest and be as true to the other person as possible, but that doesn't mean things always work out. You go to war because of the risk of worse consequences if you don't. You fall in love and choose to love because of the way the person makes you feel and how they inspire you, not because there any guarantees. There is another saying "It is better to have loved and lost than have not loved at all".As far as fighting for the love you share with your boyfriend....If you truly love him and you do in fact share a mutual love then my answer would be yes. But only you know how you feel about him and if it is worth the gamble of your heart. Trust your instincts and good luck!
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