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writes:Theres this guy I like - we're friends but have recently started spending more time together; chatting on msn, going for drinks etc. He had a gf for about a year but she moved away to a different city and when he mentioned her name one time when we were all out with friends, I asked who she was - he'd never even mentioned her name before! And one friend said "Ujm, she's his.. um..." and then stopped because he didnt know how to classify her. And then the guy I like replied she's not my girlfriend, we broke up." Since then he has been increasingly more flirty with me, but the other night his ex was out with us - she was back home visiting I think, and they seemed pretty close, and I was just wondering if anyone could tell me what is going on with him and his ex? He seems to like me, but seems to like his ex too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2008): Ex's are a part of adult life, and we all have ex's that have a part of our hearts. The important part is how he treats you. I am in a relationship where my lover speaks very fondly of his ex, and at first I was insanely jealous until I realized that I too have an ex or two I am still fond of, but would never go back to.
Ask without being accusatory and you may be surprised what the answer is.
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reader, BrknHrted  +, writes (11 February 2008):
Like Waterloo said, just be honest and ask him. You don't deserve anyone who is going to play games with you. Let him know you aren't just someone on the side. You deserve someone who only has eyes for you. If he genuinely has feelings for his ex, he will tell you. If he tells you he doesnt, but his actions show otherwise or you have a feeling he is lying just don't worry about him. There are plenty of other people out there.
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2008): Talk to him and ask him outright, just what the hell is going on. If she is his ex then why is he so close to him. If they are finished then why didnt he explain all about her. I hate exs with a passion, so dont be fobbed off with some story that he can spin. Get to know the truth and let him know that you are not playing second fiddle to some ex, if that is the case then he can choose, then at least you know the score then.take care and dont put up with crap. xx
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