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writes:Hey people!I am new to this so here it goes.My ex was a stunning looking sexy girl whom i feel in love with,anyhow over our relationship she messed me about bigtime lied to me all the time but then always came back saying she loved me and if i left her she would be devasted.She would be great to me one week the next she would just turn nasty with me.She has left now and its breaking my heart,i shouldnt love her but i do one eg of her lies is that she clearly has fake boobs and told me they where real?wtf?Then not responing to my texts and saying she was working while she wasn't i took it all on the chin but now she is gone and allot of people will think its for the best my heart is broken and my head wrecked.She never spoke to me about a month back then sent a random text she loved me??Then she turned nasty again then the week after came round to me!I asked to see her last week because a member of my family died and i really needed her,but she told me to stay away and she never wanted to see me again and has a new bf.She was really nasty to me.I know im a big softy and should grow a set but i think i really love her and i want to move on but want help on this because it is affecting me in every way?I just miss the sex,the good times,i was always great to her god i always have been to anyone i have been with and i think i want her just to talk to me again.She has said ive been clinging on and yeah in the last few weeks i have been but thats because she keeps coming back and when i turn to her its like f-off,excaept this time i dont think she is coming back and im determined not to contact her,but what if i ever hear from her again.Im sorry great people but im really down about this
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2010): similar thing happened to me but i finaly saw him for what he was an had the courage to walk away and i actualy feel good
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (22 July 2010):
 You're down because you lost someone you cared about. That's perfectly natural. Stay strong. If she does contact you, DO NOT respond. Ignore her or tell her to f-off. It will be hard, but very empowering at the same time. She doesn't diserve someone like you.
It's funny, the girl in my story hooked up with someone just like her after me. One day she came up to me and apologized for everything she had done. After going through what she put me through, she had a new perspective on what she had done. I could tell she was being sincere, because despite all her lies, I learned to read her quite will. That's karma for you. I just smiled and said I was glad she finally learned how it felt. Then I walked away. It felt great. I can only hope that something similar happens for you!
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reader, rossacelt +, writes (22 July 2010):
rossacelt is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey dirtball thank you for your answer.I want to do this bigtime but im finding it so so hard,i know im not a bad guy but good she has messed me about.I dont think im ever going to hear from her again after the abuse she gave me and i should be thankfull but im not im down about it,and i dont know why?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2010): hey man i know exactly how you feel because I am currently in the exact same position. Beautiful girl, can be the sweetest thing in the world but God forbid you are feeling bad because of the stuff she does. At first you feel so right, but when you talk with her about it you convince yourself its your fault or you were being too dramatic, and she makes it about her. So you end up apologizing to her in the end. Always bending while she stays the same. You just gotta ignore her and end it. I am going through that now and its hard as hell but i know its the right thing to do. Your sadness will pass. Mine already is going away
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reader, dirtball +, writes (22 July 2010):
Ignore her, or tell her to f-off. She is a classic manipulative type. I know them well because I dated one for a couple of my impressionable years. She is using you because you are letting her.
You've let yourself be walked all over. This has done two things. It's made you putty in her hands and made you undesirable to others. Women don't like needy/clingy guys. They like a guy with confidence, and she's shattered yours. The most important thing you can do from here on out is cut ALL ties with her. I mean everything. Don't talk to her, text her, email her, facebook her, NOTHING. She is officially dead to you.
You sound like a nice guy, and I know it doesn't seem like it now, there are girls out there who will actually appreciate you and return your feelings for them. You'd do well to spend your time looking for one of them instead of giving this succubus any more of your time.
It's a difficult road, but you will be so much stronger after walking it. Good luck.
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