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writes:Ok so ive had sex about 4 times three with condom 1 without. I know it was wrong not to use one but we did anyways im not going to explain why i didnt use one. :What is the chances of me getting pregnant if I didnt go off but he did...:We dont have jobs, any suggestions for fincial if I am pregnant? :Anything I should know about my body if I am pregnant? Like weird bruising, swelling of the eye balls ect, lol. :Big question how do I break it to my family? =S:I just have no clue about pregnancy please help im only 19 for godsake lol. I can't ask anyone these questions =(
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for helping me. I started my period today so things are all good (wipes sweat from forehead) You all helped me a bunch ive learned alot of things from this experience :)
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (6 March 2009):
 Your homework assignments:
http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
http://www.webmd.com/baby/default.htm
An normally fertile couple has a 25% chance of conceiving each month. But statistics mean nothing once you've conceived; you can only be 100% pregnant.
Go to http://www.plannedparenthood.org/index.htm to find local medical help for you (type in your zip code in the "find a health center" in the middle of the page). They should be able to help you find low cost or free medical clinics. I don't think you can have a baby for free though, so you need to figure that out. So if you can't afford a baby, don't risk having one. That seems like an obvious logical conclusion to draw to me.
I suggest you browse around the webmd and plannedparenthood sites to become more educated about pregnancy since you can't talk to anyone. They also have a lot of information on birth control.
"Mom, Dad, I'm pregnant. You're going to be grandparents!"
But before you have that talk, buy a pregnancy test and read and follow the instructions. Then if it's positive, go see the gynecologist (you should have one, even if you don't have a job, see free/low cost clinic finding instructions above) to confirm it. THEN you have the talk with your family. You seem to be getting out ahead of yourself. The gynecologist can advise you on birth control methods suitable for you and can check for STIs and talk about vaccinating you against HPV (human papilloma virus that causes genital warts and leads to cervical cancer).
If you read what I've provided, you will be really well-informed about birth control and pregnancy, then you can make informed decisions about your health and your future.
Good luck.
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (6 March 2009):
 See a doctor now, he can test you and give you all your options!
Also don't have sex again until you really understand how everything works!
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reader, tux +, writes (6 March 2009):
 You can get pregnant whether or not you go off or not.. all it takes is for him to go off. As far as your chances, it's pretty low unless you are like my wife who got pregnant the first time we got intimate. So it can happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2009): A suggestion to you would be to go and get a home pregnancy kit if you suspect you are pregnant. My second suggestion is that since you have access to the internet why dont you read up all about sex education!
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (6 March 2009):
 If you have only had sex once without protection you could be pregnant but the chances are pretty slim, but it is possible you may just be one of the unlucky ones.
Were you trying to get pregnant or was this an accident? It sounds to me like if you purposefully chose not to use a condom, then not take the morning after pill, that you want to be pregnant. Therefore you should have done your research before you had unprotected sex.
If you do miss your period then you need to take a pregnancy test. Then make your decision from there - if you are not pregnant then be more careful next time! But if you are pregnant, then your boyfriend will absolutely have to find a job so he can support the baby. I suggest he gets a full time job, ideally a 9-5 sort of thing. For you, a part time job may be better so you dont risk any extra stress for the baby. Save as much money as you can, becuase babies need lots of money! There will be nappies, clothing, bottles etc etc that will eat up your money pretty quickly.
Once you have taken a test and if it does come back positive then you must tell your parents immediately. Yes they will be annoyed, angry etc and you will get a massive lecture off them about how irresponsible you are but at the end of the day, they are your parents and they will love you no matter what happens. They will be able to support you and possibly help you financially, it is so important that you tell them. They will appreciate your honesty and they will be more understanding if you tell them from the start rather than waiting until your bump is showing!
If you want to look up what happens to your body when you are pregnant then just type in pregnancy into google and you will get lots of professionally written medical advice which should help you.
It is very sad that you have got yourself into this at your age, if you are not pregnant then you will have a lucky escape. Dont have unprotected sex again until you are ready for a baby i.e. when you are married, with your own home and stable jobs. If the test comes back negative then get down to the doctors, ask to be put onto birth control so you will never get into this situation again.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, vmadman +, writes (6 March 2009):
1. You had to be ovulating (approx 14 days after your period, for 1-3 days), but a man is capable of impregnating you even during penetration. Sperm is held in the clear fluid, not the white protein solution. Some people call it "precum", meaning it comes out far before the "cum". So, the various stages of intercourse wont necessarily affect the outcome.
2. Get a job. Make him get a job.
3. Not a woman, wouldn't know, but that should be easy enough for google to handle for you.
4. Tell them, get it out of the way, the sooner the better.
Anyone who loves you might be upset at first but will definately hold your hand through the entire process.
l.c.
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