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writes:I am currently Dating 2 girls at once, I hate this situation..It's kind of complicated...I only want 1 GF but I can't decide between the 2...Here's the background: I dated gf1 for 8 months (pretty decent relationship) She cooled off and she broke it off...2 weeks later Started dating gf2, hit it off and was having a great time, serious now...GF2 comes back into the picture a month and a half later and wants me back (Which I wanted) She even told me "I Love You", of course I said it back because I love her too...GF2 is now liking me more and more, I think I'm falling for her too...She's more affectionate, touchy feely, etc..More than gf1 (Which I also want)But GF1 isn't really into PDA or anything (which I respect) She is affectionate and she's SO sweet and cute, but emotionally comes across differently than gf2 (I like it)...I have a longer history with GF1 So it's easier for me to be with her, but I havent really had as long of history with gf2 but I'm unexpectedly falling in love with gf2, what if I miss out on something GREAT if I break it off with gf2? OH, and I need to make a decision QUICK because my best friend is having a BDAY party in less than 2 weeks and both of these girls are friendly acquaintances with him so of course they are both going to attend the bday...I have secretly told my BDAY friend to keep all the info I tell him on the DL..He's aware..But it still doesnt take away the fact that I now need to make a decision and QUICK, I think I have 1 week, What do I do!!!!!!!!!!!!Thank You..Please be kind...This situation was NOT intentional, timing seems to have unfortunately dealt me a bad hand...Which One, Which One...The Question...
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (23 July 2008):
 Hi Love
You need to search your heart not your mind, within yourself you must no without all the she likes this or the other one likes that and its so hard to choose. Like the last post said hunny close your eyes and think from deep within hunny..Not only that but if both are going to this party there is going to be some hurt involved along the way as of course its not nice to see your ex with someone so soon after a breakup..You dont say if they are aware of each other, I can see you have told your b'day friend to keep things quiet..If they are not aware they will be on that day hun and because your in two minds what to do will it not be hurtfull to see if they both find out on the night its a big possibility..I think this party is the least of your probs love first and most important is to sort your feelings out for both these women and there feelings as well as TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (22 July 2008):
 I(we) can't really chose for you. It's a decision that only YOU can take and that nobody can't do for you. What you're doing here is just trying to lower your responsibility with what you have done.
Now the reason for being with only one shouldn't be because of a birthday party, but because it's just wrong for them not knowing that they share you.
Now I know this sounds cliche, but close your eyes and look into your heart. Think of the person you love the most and the first image that comes up is the one that you should choose, don't doubt anything else.
Now just hope that they don't realize they dated the same guy and leave you alone.
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