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writes: HI everyone, My boyfriend and I broke up on Christmas day( i was super super sad since it happened on my fav day). After that, I tried to call him and showed him he's very important to that I couldn't live without him ....I knew I was stupid when doing stuff like that, but i was just unable to control my feeling at that time. My boyfriend said he didn't know how he felt now, he said he needed time, he could not forget our beautiful memories. When i heard that, I thought he still loved me. However, at the same time he treated me very very bad. He called me "stalker" He also told me to go find a new guy; his actions make me think that he hates me. I'm really confused if he still loves me. Could you please show me how to know if he still loves me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2010): hi hunny in my opinion (thats all) it depends on what sort of person he is.he could call you a stalker and be horrible to you because he can, what i mean is some people for whatever reason say and do things they dont mean,maybe its about power and or control at the moment he has both.Again this is only my opinion but you will have let him know im sure how you feel ? ok from here on its your hard time to get the answers you need, dont call him,text him, or contact him in any way,its the only way you will find out if he loves you or not.if he does love you he will contact you when he realizes what he had.if he doesnt love you he wont contact you and will feed off your upset.try and be strong and stay honest to yourself, it is hard but you will be ok i promisejervis 33 yrs its up to him now
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reader, girl from bristol  +, writes (6 January 2010):
i would say that he is not worth worrying about if he is calling you stalker and if he is not worried about you finding another guy then he does not have feelings for you anymore
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (6 January 2010):
To call you stalker, he's telling you to move on. You can live without him, and you will.
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reader, Robert Ritchie +, writes (6 January 2010):
 Hello There.Firstly, I would like to point out that it does indeed sounbd that your ex partner still have strong feelings for you and by reading your message a couple of times, your it certainly sounds like he stilll loves you but he is very unsure of the future you hold together, if indeed there is any future together as he may feel that by acting in the manner he is currently displaying, he can twist it so it is you that ends the realtionship and not him. A nasty stunt to pull and if this is his plan, you should count your blessing and move on.If however you still wish to have a relationship with him you really need to sit down and think, re-visit the time prior to your ex partner ending your relationship and see if anything changed such as an argument, did one of you cheat on the other one or is there financial worries or other family of work related problems that are getting in the way of your relationship and causing stress?When a person ends a relationship no matter how long you may have been together, there is always strong and often hurtful words exchanged and this negative words can also be displayed in our body language, so sometimes its not what comes out of his mouth that can hurt you, its how he is displaying his feeling to you, which is what your ex partner is doing at the moment.You need to now think of your needs and ask yourself the following question and answer yourself honestly, if you did manage to get back together with your ex partner would this split cause more stress and lead to another break up or cause you to seek emotional revenge and seek suppport and compfor elsewhere? Is staying together the best thing for you to do or are you better picking yourself up, dusting yourself down and starting a fresh, look on the brightside, and yes there is one I promise, you now have the time and freedom to find the real you and invest valuble time in what makes you happy, the old saying "that which does not kill us only makes us stronger" really comes into play for you now and this experience will certainly make you a stronger person.I hope this helps.Take care and please get in touch again should you need to ask anything else.
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