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writes: I've been with my partner for 3 years now I'm 23 he's 28. We have a 19 month old daughter and lived together almost the whole relationship. Hes never gave me one single compliment but I've got over it thinking he's just not that type of person. But lately he's been going out as soon as he wakes up and coming home after I've gone to bed. I occasionally coming home to eat and then back to his friends. He doesn't work. He doesn't look after our daughter while I work. He hasn't attempted to show any affection in 3 months every time I try to go near him he tells me to get off him. Whenever I bring up the subject he thinks I'm nagging and walks out. Am I? Should I jut let it go as one of those things he just wants some space? Or are the feelings of reject and disloyalty I'm feeling true. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 February 2017):
 I think you both moved to fast and now he wants out but he is not man enough to be honest with you. You work and he doesn't. You look after the child and he doesn't. You spend time at home and he doesn't. You want affection and love and well he doesn't. He uses your place as a place to sleep and that is all. He does not see it as his home and he does not see a future with you and your baby. kick this waste of space out and get weekly maintenance payments. You deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you, and will be in a relationship with you where they communicate with you and spend quality time with you.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (18 February 2017):
 He dismisses your feelings- recipricate and dismiss HIM.
No affection, no sex, no companionship, no help, no coparenting-he is not your bf, he is your rooommate and a nasty one as for that.
If he does not work, too, I suppose he does not bring home money and you have to support him ?... In this case, you are paying for being mistreated- which makes no sense.
From what you say, this relationship is beyond repair, and reasoning / pleading / explaining would end in a waste of energy, because, simply put, he does not care about anything you may feel do or say, whether you are right or wrong.
Let him go live at his friends' if he likes them so much and let's see if they too will give him such a free, easy ride.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (18 February 2017):
 You need to leave him.
Men (and women) who move in too quickly, make babies out of marriage and don't have a job or care for their child are irresponsible wastes of space. They want someone to sponge off of and, unfortunately, you didn't realise before having a baby with him.
You need to kick him out and file for child support. He doesn't want to commit to you or his child, so get rid of him.
Please don't stay; it's pointless and not good for you or your child. Don't rush future relationships either - stay on birth control and condoms, so that this doesn't happen again. Don't settle for someone who isn't giving you what you need.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2017): Oh my gosh! He doesn't work, leaves the house from the time he gets up until the time you go to bed, and he won't care for his own child?
You have no marriage, you have a squatter problem. A man who lives in your house, and treats you and his kid like unwanted roommates.
You can give him lots and lots of space. Not so far that a child-support check will take longer than 3-5 days by normal mail-delivery service.
He has declared himself a dependent. You have been abandoned, he doesn't contribute to the financial-support of his family, loss of consortium (no sex in your marriage), and he neglects his parental-duties! And you ask if you should give him space? You ask if your feelings are true?
How much worse can it get? I shutter to think!
NO!!! You should give him a divorce!!! Seek legal child-support payments. He'll be forced to get a job, or go to jail. You can do bad all by yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2017): It pains me to have to tell you this but your husband doesn't love you. Nor is he worthy of your love. I know it hurts and its going to be difficult but you have to find a way to move on. Doesn't matter how, you just have to find a way and trust me, there's always a way to move on with your life. it's just up to you decide. But make no mistake about it your feelings of rejection are real and valid. Good Luck!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (18 February 2017):
 I think the relationship is over.He has checked out and is NOT making an effort, seems like he is just waiting for you to kick him to the curb.
Are you the one who pays for everything? And how long has he not been working?
Why are you trying to hard to make this relationship work when you get NO participation from him? What do YOU get out of the relationship as it stands now?
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