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*ojo1114
writes:im 14 and i have a boyfriend but im sure that im a lesbian. what should i do im sure a lesbian and i think i like a girl at my school do u think im gay and what should i do??
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reader, dreadful_bliss  +, writes (13 June 2011):
Same here, I also have a boyfriend. I would tell your boyfriend what your thinking about first. I would also confrunt the girl. Hopfully everything goes well and you have a awsome girlfriend. :)
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reader, hojo1114 +, writes (12 June 2011):
hojo1114 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for all the comments i took them all into consideration.i dumped my boyfriend and i am now dateing the girl i liked.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2011): You may be bisexual or bi curious. And you like a girl, it could be because you admire her. Its not necessary that if you admire the same sex, it means you're gay. No. It maybe admiration. Or if its very serious, you may be bisexual. You don't have to do anything. Just relax.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (10 June 2011):
 At your age many people doubt who they are in many wasy including their sexuality, so i would label yourself as anything just yet, instead just dont be scared of your feeling and just see how it goes over time, if you learn you like girls but still like boys then you are likely to be bisexual, you may also find your feelings for girls fade away and you are striaght. there is also the possibility you may only like girls then yes you are gay but there is no need to try and define yourself so young, just go with the flow and it all becomes clear in time.
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reader, Drat001 +, writes (9 June 2011):
Why are you sure you're a lesbian? People don't wake up one morning and suddenly realize, "Woa! I'm a lesbian now." You're not a lesbian until you've come to that conclusion after much inner-discussion and soul searching.I'm not saying you aren't gay, I'm just saying that you're coming across as having made a snap decision here about something that could very well be or not be. It's like people don't suddenly decide to be liberal or conservative, you have to see the world around you and find where you fit, or even don't fit.Unlike some other people who say, "break up with your boyfriend." I'm going to say, figure out what you feel for that other girl before doing anything rash. Also, is it just this one girl? Do you have an attraction only towards women? Is it some guys and this girl? Who do you find attractive? Don't say, "I'm gay," because of a girl crush. Many, many women have crushes on other girls but turn out to be 100% straight. Many women have crushes on boys and turn out 100% lesbian. I think you may be trying to force a label on yourself, and that's not healthy for your emotions.
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reader, larna +, writes (9 June 2011):
You may not be gay, it could be just a phase, or you may be just bi?..
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2011): I mean, you could be bi-sexual. Do you have sexual feelings for boys? When you see them, do you see yourself with them or with a girl?? Or do you see yourself with both? It's nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about. It's okay to experiment with both but just be honest with your boyfriend. He may be supportive and he may diss you but it doesn't matter if he disses you. What matters is not staying in denial with your true self. There is nothing worse than pretending to be something that your not. Try to get some understanding about the way you feel. Talk to a supportive friend, family member or counselor to help discover your feelings.
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reader, wantspaintogoaway +, writes (9 June 2011):
 I could help if you explained the situation a bit more
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reader, zebralove  +, writes (9 June 2011):
 Talk to someone bout it. At school there should be a consoler? Would be confortable to talk to your parents about it? If so they could realy help you.
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