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writes:Ok, heres the problem:My Mom will be getting married to this guy in march of 09. This guy has a son that I REALLY REALLY like, maybe evan LOVE! I'm 13 and he is 14, I never stop thinking about him, and I just feel so right when I'm around him. I have never felt this way about anyone before in my life, I don't get nervous or anything around him, like I said I just love him for him! Anyways, we ARE NOT blood so if he feels the same about me there would not be a problem with us dating. I don't think it would be a problem with our family either because they always joke and talk about us dating. The only thing is, I am just really scared to tell ANYONE I'm terrified of getting my heart broken. But he has done things before, like tonight his brother sat at the foot of my bed while we both laied across my bed watching a movie. We laied close, he played with my hair and rubbed my head, he put his hand very close to mine and would brush up against it alot. He evan laid across my back and sat on me a little bit if that means anthing, I just felt all shakey and flutterish, a feeling I have never gotton before inside me. I caught him looking at me a few times, I would pretend to close my eyes and would peek out and see him looking at me, he looked me in eyes a few times to. And when we talk he looks me in my eyes the whole time and listens to me, and he tickles me playfully, there is a long list, just please help I'm very confused and I don't know what to do! Help Please!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2008): If you are not going to be living together, then I think it will be easier for you to date each other. So I would go for it. Talk to him and ask him if he feels the same way about you, and if he's interestd in having a relationship with you. If your mom objects, you can tell her you aren't blood related, so what's the big deal? He is just like another guy that you are not related to by blood. So go for it! Good luck to you and please post back here to give us updates on how things go with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2008): Hey guys, its me the one that posted this question. Somthing elese I would like to say is that we WILL NOT be living together, him and his brother are only her every other weekend 2 days out of 14, so the "living together" won't be such a prob...ust give me more answeres please!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): okay TT! can i just say you can so be in love at 13 it was when i met the guy i love and i still love him!!
talk to your mum and hint to your brother but careful hun he maybe freaked that you like him because yur his soon to be step sister :)
good luckxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): He may be attracted to you, you could end up being together, but the problem is what happens if you guys end up fighting and not liking each other any more (impossible as it might seem right now)... and you'd have to see each other day after day at home. If you've ever had a fight with a close friend, you would see how love can turn to dislike quickly, and how uncomfortable it would be to be forced to live with the people you no longer love.THAT's the reason why it's a bad idea to hook up with your future stepbrother. Talk to a trusted adult woman about this issue. If you have a good relationship with your mom, perhaps you could even tell her that you have a huge crush on her fiance's son, and ask her what she advises.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): Answers to all the questions below, you CAN be in love with someone when you're thirteen, but most of the time it is just infatuation.
As the anonymous writer says, you will soon realist when you're living with them what a nightmare they are.
After all he is your stepbrother and all the tickling and other stuff is natural brother sister play.
You should try to find someone outside your family or you could ask him whether he does like you, you never know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): Do you find yourself sexually attracted to him? If so, go with your feelings. If you feel like you want to date him, then ask him if he wants to and go ahead and pursue the relationship you want with him. It sounds like your mom and stepdad-to-be are OK with it, so why not go for it? There's an old saying that you can't help who you fall in love with? And stop worrying about getting your heart broken. You can't have a healthy relationship if you're worried that something is gonna go wrong with it. So go ahead and talk with him, tell him how you feel, and you're interested in him. Ask him if he feels the same way about you and take it from there. Keep posting back here so that we can know how things are going with you. And good luck, sweetheart! You sound like a beautiful, loving girl!
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reader, TT  +, writes (12 July 2008):
 You're not in love, you're 13!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): Aaaww this all sounds very sweet. My boyfriends mum is getting married to a man who is not her childrens father and his son is now having a baby and getting married to her daughter so if you really like him then theres no reason why you can't be with him. Though you are very young so take it slow watch yourself and enjoy being young and don't rush things. Broken hearts are alot worse once you get physical with someone so be careful and just enjoy nice things and one day when you both decide to go further you won't regret it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): Its not surprising that you havent felt like this before, youre too young. Sounds like puppy love to me. I wouldn't act on your feelings. Are you two living together? When both of you are in the same household trust me, your feelings for him will change.
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