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writes:Cinderella power!I have been with my boyfriend for last 1 year. we both met in college as we were studying in same college. we entered into friendship a healthy and good friendship, then after 3 months later we both fell in love with each other, we were taking care of each other and currently we are also taking care. in the beginning he was very kind very polite very normal person but now his behaviour has totally changed. He always used to talk to me very soberly but now he shouts and quarrels with me, he takes words of mine in otherwise he always says that you are a liar, he don't trust me either, why is he doing all this?I asked him why are you doing this as you were not like that before but he does not give any repy, he always tells me that i don't know why he starts saying to me that i am getting irritate from you when i speak anything he starts reacting very badly. but he loves me so much he cares for me. i said to him lets get married but he repies that i don't want to marry you as i don't want to marry any girl why? because we are from different community and his parents hate my community our religion is same. now what should i do as can't leave him i and he can't have mewe both ove love each other very much but the problem is that i get hyper over any small matter why plz help me as i am confused, please tell me how do i make him be ready to marry me. he told me from the beginning that he will never marry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2010): Years ago I lived with a guy, I wanted us to get married but he didn't, then out of the blue he changed his mind. We never did marry, I decided I couldn't marry someone that I felt he heart wasn't it in. All these years later, he has a partner, and kids, but he still isn't married, he is 50 now, he just isn't he marrying kind.
You can't convince someone to marry you, why would you want to? He is not leading you on he has been honest with you, you have decide is this enough for you.
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reader, KRSMouse  +, writes (24 April 2010):
To be honest, it sounds like you have plenty of problems to sort out before you get married! I'd stop even thinking about getting married for the time being, you have only been together for a year afterall, and focus on trying to have a good happy relationship instead! If you succeed at this, then in time he is far more likely to warm to the idea! Trying to force him into it now is more likely if anything to push him away.
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reader, rambini +, writes (24 April 2010):
 If he told you from the beginning he will not marry, then you knew what you were getting into from the start. he has been honest with you, and there is nothing you can do to change that. if you love him you must respect his decision, especially as he has been clear about his intentions from day 1.
you are probably arguing because you are trying to pressure him into marrying you when he has made it clear that marrying you is not an option.
you either need to accept that you will never marry this man and be happy with that, or you need to leave him and find someone who can and will marry you.
best of luck x
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