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writes:okay so i lost my virginity to a guy i honestly felt great feelings for at the time. we stayed together for 2 and a half years until i decided that something was missing. I broke it off then I found myself starting to like a guy three years older then me, then I totally just ruined the whole thing by having sex with him. At the time i didn't realize that if i would've just held off, maybe he wouldve seen me in a diff light. no relationships since then have seemed to work out. I can't seem to find I guy i like and hold off on my sexual tendancies. is it possible to have a serious relationship and sex at my age? Do I have a problem?
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reader, soon567 +, writes (27 November 2010):
Every time you have sex with a guy he mentally holds that against you. We look for images of our mother for a potentially serious mate and we know our mother wouldn’t be fucking a guy she’s not married too. If he wants you, keep it close because he’s not going anywhere.
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reader, catwoman69 +, writes (26 November 2010):
At your age your too young to be a sexual active.You can use sex toy for more.But open your eyes darling coz your ver young and try to prove to yourself that your not easy to get person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2010): There is no such thing, really as nymphomania and satyriasis, which they have now renamed hypersexuality.. and why. Because humans are basically foremost sexual beings. Anything in the world, however, tangible or not, can be abused and come to be needed very like a drug. If this primal drive of yours is negatively impacting your lifestyle, work, relationships, or psychological state in a major way, you'll need to will yourself and ideally seek support to make a change.
If you feel it is in control and perfectly rosy and enjoyable, no need to worry, you're just a healthy young lady! If it is important to you to keep ladylike in your cconscience and social persona, promiscuity is a definite no- no.
Most guys can probably classify as "healthily hypersexual" so take it slow, find someone you click with, wait for something real and committed to develop, then... have at it. Don't let anyone take advantage of this side of you by diving in right of the bat! Protect your emotions and body by getting serious with the person who is worth them, who will appreciate them the best!
-Tante Vic
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reader, misLadYd..  +, writes (26 November 2010):
 you dont have a problem..you just cant hold yourself or maybe you want to prove that you like the guy by having sex too early in the relationship.you will have a good relationship if you cool yourself down..dont think sex a lot
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reader, DeadEyeDick +, writes (26 November 2010):
 In my opinion, I really dig girls who make it difficult, but not overly difficult, if I go out with a chick, and try to get some action the first date, and she lets me, I don't for a second believe im some different better guy, that she's made this special exception for, I have to believe she just puts out to any guy, on the other hand, if a chick doesn't put out by the 3rd date, I have to assume she's never going to put out, so I split, if she plans on putting out, she will come to me and do it! to me there's a very delicate balance, and it doesn't really matter how much I like the girl, the difficulty, and amount of time it takes her before she gives it up, plays a very important factor in my over all view of her, more so then number of past sexual partners, or any other factor!
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reader, oopslookout +, writes (26 November 2010):
 Yes If you find the right guy. I suggest that you keep your legs crossed and your hands in your pockets. I think you will find out what kind of guy you have. The will to live and the will to have sex are two of the strongest wills you will have. I say use a toy if you have to until you find the right guy.
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