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writes:I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months and a half now... He was always texting me and trying to make plans, even though things were pretty much last minute so I couldn't see him that often. However, I didn't believe it was just for sex because he always remembered details about me, he seemed super interested in getting to know me and getting me to know him, and he was always texting me if I got sick, if I had a test, anything... On our 4th date, we had sex... we agreed afterwards that it was too soon, but oh well, it happened... Anyway, he was super sweet, he cuddled with me all night, he wanted to talk after sex, etc... But, after that day calls and texts started slowing down to almost nothing, so I thought it was just a one night stand. A week ago he called me to go to the movies with him. i couldn't go, but I invited him to my place the following night. he didn't try to do anything at first... we talked for 2 hours about our families, friends, jobs, drank some wine, watched a movie, and then he told me he was sorry because he knows he's super independent and he's very hard to date (which i found weird because I thought we were not dating anymore). He stayed over that night and he was super sweet again, it was perfect, as if we were in an actual relationship...I told him two days ago to go to the movies that same night, since i was coming back home for the holidays, but it was very last minute, so we didn't go. However, he texted me yesterday wishing me a safe trip and a great time with my family... and he texted me today again wishing me a happy holiday.All I want to know... is he actually interested or is he just playing me? I mean, he's not spending the amount of time and effort I think a guy should spend when he likes a girl... but he i know he's a great guy and i think he's pretty honest. I just need somebody else's opinion...
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reader, xanthic +, writes (26 November 2010):
 He may like you, but I don't think he's into you as much as you're into him, otherwise you'd hear from him more often and he wouldn't always make plans at the very last minute. Behaviour like that makes me think he prefers to wait to see if something else comes up first, then gets in touch with you as an afterthought.
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reader, loulou24  +, writes (26 November 2010):
It honestly sounds to me that he is interested in you I dont think he would be doing the things hes doing without having a good level of interst. I would make an assumption that like alot of people his statement about being hard to date because he is so independent is a way of him coming across as being this cool guy who doesnt need anyone only himself which would suggest he may have some insecurity about admitting he likes you or by being let down that is his safeguard maybe hes been let down in the past however if you felt confused as to why he felt you were still dating then this clearly suggests lack of communication and clearly you are assuming different things about whats happening. So what I would say is that it sounds like you dont know where you stand with him because im presuming you like him? I rekon give it another month and stay friendly maybe a few more casual dates get to know each other a bit better and it would definatly a good idea not to have sex for a while to see will he wait around its always a good test of how someone truely feels, but if it is the same in a month where it no more definite i would just ask him how he feels about you no harm asking after 3 or 4 months and take it from there dont worry about scaring him off if he is truely interested he may have just needed a bit of encouragement to let you know and if he plays it cool then you can decide yourself whether you want to carry on. best of luck with it men are complicated creatures i spent 10 months with a guy who never filled me in where we stood and it drove me crazy i was to afraid at the time 2 ask and i vowed never again!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2010): ~Uh...HUH LO HO...HELL NO!!~
Open your eyes! He's a keeper. He is not at all using you. He likes you. He's honest with you. And, he respects you. Plus, he respects independence. He's into you. I can't see him as the type of guy that uses girls or would be intimate with a girl other than you. He just is going about your and his friendship the right way!
YOU ARE LUCKY! HE'S A KEEPER! YOU CAN BREATHE WITH HIM and CONTINUE INVESTING IN OTHER ASPECTS OF YOU LIFE!
I really am impressed that he knows what he wants and is direct with you.
Very Nice!
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