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writes:I am 15 and my boyfriend will be 18 this april. we have been dating for 2 months now. things are changing, we used to text all the time, now he is saying we dont need to text as much any more because he is afraid it will become awkward. he says he loves me but he needs time to think and he says its his me time. Am I being played and what does he mean by time to think and his me time.
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reader, allyson +, writes (9 January 2011):
allyson is verified as being by the original poster of the questionexcellant advice from everyone thanks and i will be careful
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reader, 0000BraveHeart0000  +, writes (7 January 2011):
 I think I would agree with him on the matter of the 'me time'. I just think what he is trying to say is that you guys text eachother everyday, attend the same school I am sure, see eachother everyday, eat together ....to the point that he wants to hang with his friends or by himself. It is not uncommon, everyone tends to need some space in the relationship once in a while. How would you feel if your boyfriend called you every five minutes, followed you to the girls bathroom and decided to stick around when you and your friends are talking about your latest escapades? You would say you dont mind now but it is atually more annoying than it sounds.
However, I do not get why he thinks that it would get awkward if you guys text now. You have been in a relationship for two months and I am sure texting was second nature ...and nothing new. Becareful, chances are he may be second guessing the relationship. Though, I have heard of instances where men do not feel motivated to do things that they did when they pursued the girl...it is almost as if they have grown tired or lazy now that they have the girl and will not work at the relationship. Still, by taking away that which is an important essence to the relationship (texting), kinda leaves you to wonder what else he would try to quit on....would he say no sitting together in class or when his friends are nearby. I feel he may be second guessing the relationship and probably near to calling it quits (break up). This may be his way of ending it...starting by taking away things....which would aid in drawing away but you must observe him some more. In the event that anything happens you would have seen the signs and would have been mentally prepared...I hope
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2011): Well if you guys text all the time and are obsessed then yea I can see he needs time to process all the texting. But the akward part now that is not normal. I think he could possibly be cheating on you and I think asking him is not the best thing to do because alot of guys now days love to lie about stuff so of course he is going to say no to try and get away with it. If I were you I would take extra percautions on the signs he is sending you. But my that is my opoion. Hope everything works out well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2011): Maybe he just means that he needs time to himself. sometimes in the beginning of relationships people talk and text everyday maybe he feels he is at the stage where you dont need to do that and needs space. The best thing you can do is give him his space. let him call or text you first. if he dosent contact you within 3 days then I would worry. If he said he loves you maybe he is freaked out men can sometimes do that too. my point is that if he really likes you he will call you agian. But don't wait around for him go hang with your girlfriends if he don't call oh well you deserve to be with somebody who pays attention to you. goood luck best wishes remember that in relationships do what makes you happy :)
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reader, Abbii_xxx  +, writes (6 January 2011):
 ok hard situation here.. but honestly i no what its like to be played by an older man so i ent going to lecture you... but you have just got to figure out if this is really worth it.. because he may well love you,and may just need time to figure out the situation, males are complex creatures honestly i dont think we will eva no what really goes on in there heads but honestly babe i think you should question him about this.. if he really loved you why would he find it awkward, but honestly you seem like a realy nice girl and i hope it works out for you xxx
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reader, cat lady +, writes (6 January 2011):
 Your boyfriend is giving you good advice whether you know it or not. YOU need some 'me time' as well! Take it and lay off the hot and heavy romances until you are ready for the adult responsibilities that inevitably accompany them - particularly for women.
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reader, PrettyGirlRock +, writes (6 January 2011):
YES! your being played big time! My x did this to me in fact we were the same age, and hes gana be 18 in april to! any ways, be careful because my x said the exact same thing and he ended up cheating on me, and breaking up with me using a lame excuse. Hes telling you hes always thinking bout you saying its his you time. But he is eventually going to break up with you when he lives for collage any ways
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