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writes:On average, is a height of 5'8 an initial turnoff? I understand that women prefer taller guys, and that 5'8 is a bit below the average height of 5'10-6'. Am I at a general disadvantage in dealing with women? I mean my current girlfriend is 5'4 so its not a dig deal, but what are my chances of a girl being taller than me?I understand that there is more to a person than appearance and much more goes into it, but its common sense that aesthetics are ultimately a big deal in our shallow society. Is 5'8 an undesirable height? Please keep responses limited to height, I don't have image problems, so don't tell me about personality, humor and such I understand all that. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2011): Average measurements, be they height, length, girth, breast size, do NOT translate into average relationships. Tall women are at a disadvantage. All of them, my current GF included, have had to accept that a shorter partner is inevitable if you want to have a normal love life. There just arent enough 6 ft+ guys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, I had a physical the other day and I'm now 5'9 1/4 so the average girl is exactly 5 inches shorter than me. Thanks all.
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reader, shokoloco +, writes (28 February 2011):
well, im just talking height here... im 6'3" male, my girlfriend is 5'8"... she thinks im too tall, most of girls that they were shorter than her they had no problem and they loved me more because of my height, all i can say is that its really depends on the girls personality, some girls they need support and they more needy they prefer taller and some very confident and a bit selfish they prefer not to have much height difference... and some girls they lose confidence and comfort next to a very tall guy... i have experienced all these perspectives ;) but in general discussion they say a man taller than girl 3 to 5 inches is ideal considering all the heels and hair things...
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe initial spurt of answers is obviously over but maybe I'll grow another inch or two. Is 5'10 all that different from 5'8?
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (27 February 2011):
 5'8" is not a bad height, you're still taller than the average girl. Most girls are going to worry more about how buff you are than how tall. Which is a good thing because you can't change how tall you are but you can work out.Good Luck!
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reader, sevenseals +, writes (27 February 2011):
 Height and "manliness" seem to be biological standards that attract a female, but considering our highly-complex social system (and doing the exact opposite of what our genes demand), the argument could be made (as it should) that it's inherently social as much as it is biological.My own experience lends me that confidence to make such a remark. I'm around 5'5", 5'6" and, yes, it has been the subject of rejection by some women and mocking by peers (though, of course, that stopped in high school. People actually "grow up," surprisingly enough).However, I've had much more than a good amount of sexual relationships with women who I would have, in the past, considered "way out of my league." Women taller than me, even. It's a normal aspect of life, now, but when it first began, I gotta say it was shocking and, well, quite awesome!What I'm saying is that, as the social species of primates that we are, genetic preferences, while still important, are only part of the story. A big part, yes, but our sociability has extended into language and complex thought. As such, we're given the opportunity to know an individual member of the species beyond just assessing their physical traits in an unconscious, instinctual manner (that still occurs, mind you; don't kid yourself that it doesn't).Being sociable, "real," confident, indifferent, aloof, funny, quick-witted, etc. All of that lends to increase the attractiveness of a shorter male. Good looks are a plus, but really it's a non-issue in the grander scheme. Rejection is important, too, because you need to be completely at peace with it. It's going to happen, and it sucks, but it's okay. "There are plenty of other fish in the sea," a common but true statement.There are definitely women out there who make it a rule, or a caveat, that they will only ever date taller men. It's a shame, but then, why would you want to be with someone who values only the aesthetic, anyway?Sure, I'm short. But I don't care, and since I don't care, it's not an issue. That attracts others who equally do not care (friends included), and will invariably lead to romantically-interested women who don't care, as well. It's a matter of sociability, and well, just being human.
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (27 February 2011):
 I'm 5'3. My rule of dating is to only date a guy taller than me. So you're fine.
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reader, JDinCali +, writes (27 February 2011):
 To answer your question, 5'8" is fine. :)
I'll make this simple though... Women like to wear heels, (4 inches max) and if they have big hair, then add a couple more inches. If you're taller than that, you're golden. Most women like it when their man is taller.
However, if you're an amazing guy, with desirable traits; not just looks, but a decent guy that can fix things or do things a woman can't do and if you're a gentleman who will take her out to eat, graciously open the door for her... then a woman will find you as a man who can provide for her needs and she'll feel secure in your arms. AKA, she'll like you.
...Just try not to have sex until you can afford $9,400 a year to support a baby and a few thousand more for your girlfriend.
Good luck!
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reader, annie6934  +, writes (27 February 2011):
I'm a 5'8" female and although i prefer a man to be taller than me (so i can wear heels) i wouldn't rule someone out because they were shorter than me. 5'8" is a good height for a guy and there are planty of women who will think that is tall enough for them. Some women don't like really tall men.
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