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writes:I know this girl for 6-7 years now, we used to be good friends then we started dating more like as a friends, at all those times i really liked her but i wasn't sure if shes the one for me maybe because of the way she was acting that she doesn't care if i have relations or not, and i was too young as well.. i thought its better to be her best friend... there is a big distance between us where we live... so everytime i was visiting her town was mainly to see her, even though it would been just few hours... i was telling her everything about myself and what i was doing at that time, like the relationships i had and maybe with some unnecessary details.she was reacting normal, listening to me and showing she doesn't care, but in her point of view it was wrong the things i was doing... in the other side, she never had any other guy in her life... she is so pretty and nice and im sure guys around her doing anything to get her attention and like even her classmates in university...in all these years (more recently) we have tried to be more emotionally close to eachother... and she always told me that she likes me... last year because i was involved with couple of girls completely in open relations where i live i apparently ignored her... and didnt answered her calls or her emails,but things changed and we still in touch.. its been a while now i dont feel at all for any girl and im not even willing to have any open relations... i started to realize i have to find someone that i really love, at that time she came to my town and we had really good time, i visited her after a week.. everything was good again, and i really believe she's the only one for me.. i'm ready to do anything for her to make her happy, but we had so many conversations and shes telling me she cant trust me anymore, and things in her mind about my past and what i've done bothering her to get emotionally attached to me...she told me we can have a normal relation but i can't be the man that she wants to live with because she thinks anytime i may go where i was and do the same things... and she cant accept that i have changed, this things hurting me and hurting her, but im trying to hard instead of getting angry when she opens the same conversation i always listen to her now and tell her time will fix all these, im sure she likes me, but i dont know what doesnt make her forget or get over my past or accept the new me... what can i do to make her trust me and to make her comfortable that she's the only one... ??? any advice will help, i know girls are different, i have a friend which is a girl and she told me she would love to know about her bf's past.. and whats past its past and she likes her bf because wat he is at present... but i cant compare my gf with this girl because this girl she had many relationships herself as well... but my girl i was the only one for her all time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2011): Hi, i'm 13 so this advice might not be very good, but if I was her, I would want you to call me or text me every day that you love me. I haven't had any relationship with people, but I hope it helped and good luck.
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