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writes:i have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and have a child with him. my mum thinks we split up 3 years ago and would disown me if she new. i dont love him or want to be with him but i know he will cause serious problems for me if i finish it. what can i do.
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reader, TomWilkinson +, writes (22 November 2007):
 The problems will be far worse if you don't finish it. You need to think about your own happiness first and foremost. Also (I don't know if it is for you) staying together for the kid is NEVER a good idea, they will know that you are unhappy and it'd be far better for you and your child to be out of this relationship. I'm not saying you should shut him out completely, it's only fair that he see his child, but if you don't love him or want to be with him, bite the bullet and end it.
I don't know what problems would occur, but there is help at every corner. Feel free to email me with more detail and I'll be more than happy to give you suggestions or places you can go or people you can talk to.
Take care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2007): why dont you love him anymore? and what kind of serious problems are you afraid he will cause?
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reader, jorge88  +, writes (22 November 2007):
please, don't make the same mistake that many woman and man make. they don't want to leave him or her because they are afrid that they might do something terrible. By doing this, you are wasting your life and not enjoying it. specially if you have a son, he needs to have a nice life. leave your boyfriend and don't be afraid, if anything happens it's gonna happen and we humans find solutions to our problems even if it has to involve the law, if you know what i mean. So leave him, start enjoying your life and be a good mom to that child because he needs you more than ever at his age ok. good luck..
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