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writes:My boyfriend left me on new years and I was with him for four months but we really just clicked ya know? Well he goes to my school and I have gym class with him. I have tried to be just friends but it's too emotional for me. It's hard to get around him when you have to see him every day and I miss the way he used to hold me and the way he would treat me and love me, we've been apart for a week now and my best friend's hitting on him already. It hurts to see him and he still hugs me. Is that wrong? I just kinda need some advice on how to get him back or to move on but mainly just get him back. He means a lot to me and I don't want to l ose him for good.....can you help me out...?
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reader, *$Maurice$* +, writes (8 January 2009):
 Then tell your ex about how u feel because how I'm was reading it sounds like u did not tell him and if that was your bestfriend who wants 2get wit him she kant be all that good as a friend because of what she that she jus wanted your man she might have really did not like u because a good friend would not do that
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (8 January 2009):
 You have got to find a way to put more focus on yourself and the others around you. Don't obsess over the breakup and your ex. Your friend is not really doing right by flirting and such with him but she is young yet and may not realize she is affecting your friendship. If he is still hugging you he may still like you or he may at least care about you as a friend. Don't worry to much over it hon I know it hurts but your heart is young and tender but it will heal quickly.
Be nice to him always but don't make special efforts to be around him. Take time in getting to know other guys so you won't dwell so much on him. Don't pressure him or try to do anything that might make him feel guilty. It could upset him and push him away. Let your friend know that you are hurt that she is hitting on him. Tell her it's her choice if she persues him but it could affect the relationship you have with her. That you can't promise anything.
If she doen't stop you may not want to stay best friends with her. Do try not to let this destroy a good friendship however if possible. At this point you aren't sure he is even interested in her.Don't let on to others that you still care about him in this way, this could cause them to spread rumor and upset him also. Whatever you do since you two have remained friends play it cool in order to salvage the friendship. You never know what tomorrow brings and he may change his mind. You are really young so you have alot of time to just sit back and take it easy, waiting on another her chance if it should come along. Then again for someone totally new and possibly even better than he.
Keep focused on your school work, your friends and yourself. Do things you enjoy and try to keep busy so you won't be dwelling on him or your best friend. Let them both do what they want but keep in mind you deserve someone who wants you and you should never settle for less. Perhaps he will come back but if not it may be a blessing in disquise.It could be the very thing that God has intended for you to be able to find more in your youth than just a b/f....but to truely find yourself. To know how to make choices and how to deal with your heart. Don't loose Faith because you will find what you are looking for it just might not be at this time in your life.
When you do all the things you can and remain his loyal friend, you will have kept something special. You will be glad that you can always remember a good friendship that never ended and may turn to something else one day...Only GOD knows that for sure! If he chooses to take a different path just Trust that it wasn't really meant to be.
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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